Harodan Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Here's my problem; A girl comes over to my apartment (which I share with 5 roommates) often, almost daily. She used to date my roommate, but recently, they broke it off. It's quite obvious that she still has feelings for him, but she knows that it's not going anywhere. The relationship I have with her is somewhat strange. She insults me, jokingly, and I act hurt, and she laughs. We joke around like that, but I don't think she realizes that she hurts me more than she intends with those insults. I can't stop thinking about her, and it causes me problems, as she doesn't treat me with the same respect that she gives everyone else. She'll say Hi to anyone, and that's anyone, but me, walking in the front door, and other stuff that's similar. When I see her for the first time each day, she seems even mad at me, though I don't entirely know why. Being her friend hurts more than it should. But I can't stop thinking about her. I know that these things aren't good for me, and often I'll drown myself in video games to forget about her. I need some suggestions... I think the most healthy thing would be to forget about her, but with her stopping by the apartment every day, it gets difficult. I really like her, but it doesn't seem like anything is ever going to happen... and I love this apartment. I can't leave at the moment. Am I stuck, or are there good methods of forgetting about a girl that I should know?
PrincessPeach Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 You could find yourself a girl. Start a romantic interest with the new girl. Then you'll be thinking about the new girl enough that this girl won't enter your mind nearly as much.
Author Harodan Posted November 4, 2008 Author Posted November 4, 2008 True, and the fact that this girl acts the way she does could be due to her noticing hints of me liking her. Maybe it's just that making things awkward.
BikerBeagle Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 When I was in 3rd grade, girls used to hit me to show their interest ...I'm just sayin' ...
Suiyobi Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Fight fire with fire. Or bust her balls. Either way works.
vince1128 Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Fight fire with fire. Or bust her balls. Either way works. i agree, play the game right back and see how she reacts
Lucky555 Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 " True, and the fact that this girl acts the way she does could be due to her noticing hints of me liking her. Maybe it's just that making things awkward." Yeah this is true, she probably would like you as a friend...but from my point of view shes really trying to get you to NOT like her if she asks mean. I do this myself to guys that i am not romantically interested in because i don't want them to like me because i don't want to hurt them when they decide to act upon their feelings..because im not interested. im just trying to help here. Definitely go get a girlfriend and start thinking about her
Author Harodan Posted November 5, 2008 Author Posted November 5, 2008 Yeah, that's the impression I got. She makes sure that I know she's not interested. As for fighting fire with fire, I have to a small extent. We have mini-battles of 'insults' (mine are usually harmless) where she usually ends up laughing. And yes, she's slapped me before, punched me in the stomach when I jokingly hugged her, but never all that hard, just kind of... I dunno, playfully but not. Every now and then, she does something decent for me. She invited me to her dinner group (where we all cook for eachother,) to her DnD group, so on. It leads me to believe that though she treats me badly in order to discourage my hopes, she does want to stay friends. And there is another girl here who I have dated often, who I feel natural around... I just don't see her that often, and I'm unsure of how she feels towards me. We have fun together, though. Well... For now, I just have to find ways to deal with it. Why can't things just be simple? =/
Author Harodan Posted November 12, 2008 Author Posted November 12, 2008 So I sat down and talked to her. I was kind of nervous... you know, "kind of" in the sense that my heart beat so hard it shook my hand, but I still did talk to her. I thought she hated me, but the deal is that she's still upset about the breakup she went through with a former roommate of mine. She apologized to me for being a jerk, and told me that she doesn't mean to hurt me. Now I really want to help her. As a friend, I want to be there for her in a way that others haven't been able to; She admitted that she really wants to talk to my roommate again, but he doesn't seem to be willing to. It seems that he still has feelings for her, as his screensaver still has pictures of the two of them together. I have no idea what happened in the breakup, and I don't want to throw myself in there, as it's definitely not my place to. Even so, if I can help her in any way, maybe nudge him in the right direction, I will, but I don't know what would be right for me to do.
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