jgaz3124 Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Ok I am feeling a little bit nuts with all the emotions I am having right now, but on Sunday my boyfriend broke up with me. At first I didn't feel much of anything I just sort of felt normal but today I cried and then I felt happy all of the sudden and now I feel loney and lost and I mis him alot. I have no clue what I really feel about this breakup. Alittle background. My ex and I have been dating for a year and a half. Like normal the relationship started out good but after six months of dating the rose color vail came off and we both started to show our true selves, not that it is a bad thing to do that but that is also when we started to fight. I have never been to college after high school and he has a double masters degree and although this did not matter at first to him he wanted me to go to school and get some sort of degree. So I did and I don't regret it as I actually am finding that I really like school. After this things went well for a while but now when ever we get moody with each other or we have a bad day, he says that I need help and need to see a thearpist in order to continue this relationship. When he started to say this stuff I became angry like nothing I do is ever good enough and who is he to tell me I need help because I get moody every now and again. So he broke up with me and refuses to talk to me until I go and see a thearapist. I don't know why but I get the feeling that he keeps trying to change me and it bothers the hell out of me. But besides all this I do still love him and miss him and feel that I have lost my best friend. I guess I just need some encouragement to help me move on and stay strong enough to move on with my life.
BikerBeagle Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Would a therapist be a bad thing right now? At the very least, it would help you deal with this breakup ...'cause it's going to get a lot worse before it gets better.
Author jgaz3124 Posted November 4, 2008 Author Posted November 4, 2008 No it wouldn't be a bad thing and I have no problem going to see one, but I really don't think it is right that he would force me to go and see one. At the very least I can see his point of view but if I going thru such a bad time right now, I mean about other things in my life, why can't he just be there for me and help me find a therapist and get to a better spot, why just leave me and refuse to talk to me until I talk to one.
BikerBeagle Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I don't know, maybe he thinks it would benefit you? You are right, though, he could probably be a little more supportive, but your initial post made it appear as though this isn't the first time the subject of a therapist has come up ...and not the first time you've rejected it. He may just be at his wits end and doesn't know what else to do. Sometimes, drastic results require drastic measures to produce them.
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