confusedCA Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 So, I met a guy Saturday night. We really had a ton of chemistry. Stayed up until 6AM talking. He said he would "for sure call me" when he left. Yesterday I get a text from him saying that he "really would like to hang out but he likes hanging out with me too much and I would be a distraction". Correct me if I am worng but I thought tha goal was to hang out with someone that you like hanging out with... Any words of wisdom? P.S. I am really bad at playing games and recognizing games. Is this just a game?
BikerBeagle Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I have no idea. Maybe he has something else going on? ...you know, something innocent, like another girlfriend?
Author confusedCA Posted November 4, 2008 Author Posted November 4, 2008 He just seemed so genuine! I guess he could have fooled me.
D-Jam Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I think it's just a game. I'm more inclined to believe he's got someone else and thus found a very bad excuse to blow you off because he decided not to cheat on his current. Sorry.
PrincessPeach Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Sounds to me like he might already have a someone else, as others have posted. However, if that isn't the case, he could be saying that to keep himself from falling for you too fast. In this case he might want to protect his heart, because if he falls head over heels for you and you haven't fallen for him yet he will probably be a little hurt. Alternatively he could have some important deadline relating to school or work that he needs to focus on and knows he shouldn't be derailed from that. Guys don't always give the reasons for what they do, even when it would seem to make sense to. If he likes you, give it a little while and he will call back if it was just something he was busy with. If he doesn't call back it was probably that he already had a girl and didn't want to risk being unfaithful.
BCCA Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I have to believe that if it was anything besides him having someone else he would have been a little more upfront. If he liked you, he would want to see you unless there was a reason that was not possible. The idea that he might fall too quickly and like you too much is ridiculous. I honestly have to scratch my head after reading some of the excuses people get. He's blowing you off...do you really care why? No, his loss, let someone else like you too much.
Author confusedCA Posted November 4, 2008 Author Posted November 4, 2008 Thanks for the responses. I guess I should have included the other thing that he said "I am intentionally avoiding relationships at this point in my life". Well, why did you waste my time talking to me til 6AM? One of my biggests problems is that I give everyone the benefit of the doubt. I want to believe that he isn't blowing me off but the other part of me knows that he is. Very strange internal battle.
Geishawhelk Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 had I been you, I would have texted him back exactly what BCCA said - "Fine, but it's your loss. Have a nice Life. Bye!" Maybe - just maybe - he might then have thought - "Man, am I being a jerk or what - ?! I coulda had a chance to go with someone really nice - and I just blew it!" Hah!!
Author confusedCA Posted November 4, 2008 Author Posted November 4, 2008 had I been you, I would have texted him back exactly what BCCA said - "Fine, but it's your loss. Have a nice Life. Bye!" Maybe - just maybe - he might then have thought - "Man, am I being a jerk or what - ?! I coulda had a chance to go with someone really nice - and I just blew it!" Hah!! I would love to be able to say something like that but I never have the courage or smarts to do that at the time.
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