Bells Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Yes, as nutty as this seems, and in THIS particular election, I noticed a lot of hate....on both parts, it's like if you vote for one person, and the other person isn't voting for the same person, you're considered some kind of scumbag. Will the man/woman you date, will the first question you ask..."Who you voted for?" and they tell you, and it's not something you like...will that be a dealbreaker? And if it is...wouldn't you think that's silly to consider it a dealbreaker? Though, not sure if this should be in the "DATING" part...but this segways into the hate now. I sometimes afraid to say who I voted for to ANYONE if they ask, because they might wind up heating me......not that I should care I suppose...but I'm noticing HATE in general to opposing voters. Heck, physical fights are breakin' out at some polls, so I've heard in some news stories. What's your take on this?
EAJuggalo Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 My GF and I are voting for different people, she's voting for people I find unconscionable and I'm voting for people just doesn't like. We've come to an agreement that we're not going to preach to each other and respect the others views.
Author Bells Posted November 4, 2008 Author Posted November 4, 2008 My GF and I are voting for different people, she's voting for people I find unconscionable and I'm voting for people just doesn't like. We've come to an agreement that we're not going to preach to each other and respect the others views. Well, at least your not breaking up over it. lol.
Trialbyfire Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I can't speak for this election, since I'm not American but in the past, I've dated both conservative and liberals. More often, it's been moderates. I don't care who they vote for but I do care how they came to their decision and why they're voting for their party/candidate of choice. I have a strong preference for a thinking individual.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Relationships are hard enough without adding political adversity into it. So I married someone who had no political views whatsoever and then molded him into a member of my party.
amaysngrace Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 My BF and I argued Sunday about it. We weren't on the same page at all. I argued my point. I threw in the fact that he voted W into a second term. Low blow but who cares...it's true. He left that night in silence. Last night he comes here and had dinner. No talk of the candidates. It was a nice night. This morning he brings me a coffee. I asked who he voted for. He said it was a tough call. He was up late tossing and turning. He said he ended up voting for my guy. I don't know if he did or didn't but at least he's smart enough to say he did.
Trialbyfire Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Are you serious? Haha...deadly serious. I'm a Canadian!
lonelyandfrustrated Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Are you serious? Newsflash! Not everyone on teh interwebs is American.
amaysngrace Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Newsflash! Not everyone on teh interwebs is American. Back off Mr. 380 posts. I know her fairly well and just never knew that. "interweb" lol
quankanne Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 So I married someone who had no political views whatsoever and then molded him into a member of my party. :laugh: now THERE'S a way to do it! *sigh* not sure if I'm going to go vote because I'm pretty sure I know who's going to win. And because I just don't want to hear my husband kvetch about politics or who I voted for – I don't vote party, I vote candidate. I know who I like, who I'd feel comfortable at the helm of a particular office, therefore my record is all over the place ... sometimes GOP, sometimes Dem, and once, Kinky Friedman. and since I'm pretty sure about the outcome of tonight's election, and I'm okay with that person being in office, there's no pressing need for me to cast my vote if there are other things that are more urgent. Like the fact that it's press day and it's fixing to get busy ..
amaysngrace Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Back off Mr. 380 posts. I know her fairly well and just never knew that. "interweb" lol Okay my kids read this when I typed it and called me mean. So I'm sorry. I just didn't like the way it was stated like I was dumb or something. At least please get to know me before you make that assumption.
pandagirl Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 First...EVERYONE SHOULD GO VOTE TODAY!!!! And, honestly, I don't think I could date someone with opposing party views. It's not that I'm not open-minded -- I respect peoples' opinions -- but, I don't think I could fundamentally agree with my boyfriend's ideals if he were politically conservative.
D-Jam Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I kid you not. I met a woman on POF years ago. We chatted on the site and then on AIM. We had a lot in common, clicked well, she seemed very much into me. Then she said "I have to know...what's your political stance?" I told her the truth. That while I don't take sides with either party, I tend right now to vote more liberal. She went from sweet intelligent girl into total psycho. I'm not kidding. Suddenly she had nothing but hate and disappointment for me because she's very neo-con. She treated me then like she had met the devil himself and even decided she could not talk to me anymore because of my views. Like she was Capulet and I was Montague. She's still single to this day and on dating sites. Even tossed up words now that liberals should stay away. I find it funnier that she moved to CHICAGO, ILLINOIS and carried that mentality. It's a very liberal state and city here. I even tried to be nice and suggested she check out the Young Republicans Society to meet men of her viewpoints...she still spouted back that anything I say is garbage now and I can't be trusted. Can you believe this?
lonelyandfrustrated Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Okay my kids read this when I typed it and called me mean. So I'm sorry. I just didn't like the way it was stated like I was dumb or something. At least please get to know me before you make that assumption. Interpretations, dear. I was trying to make a funny by using 'teh interwebs', and I took your post as a friendly jab back, what with the Mr 380 (it's Mrs, btw) and the lol at the end. Tell the kids I'm fine and don't think their mommy (daddy? lol) is mean.
grogster Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I've dated a number of women who insisted that a guy supporting McCain would be a deal-breaker--regardless of his manly virtues. They weren't kidding. While the Id and Politics can sometimes be strange bedfellows, in this election Politics, for many, goes below the belt. No Obama, no nookie.
kashmir Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I can't stand anyone who puts too much trust and faith into any politician, and I've certainly seen such behavior in this election with the Obama cult. I tend to be very liberal myself, but I'm practical, and while I have some relatively radical views on some issues, I know idealism when I see it. Being surrounded by Democratic college students who think everything is black and white (good democrats, bad republicans), I tend to be pretty skeptical of the system as a whole and any one side. What I'm saying is, sometimes the smartest thing to do for a nation as a whole is to realize that a solution besides your own MIGHT be more beneficial. It's not totally admitting you're wrong, it's just seeing things from all angles. A lot of people tend to get total tunnel-vision, and it annoys me. So to answer the original question, if a girl revealed herself to be a devout McCain OR Obama supporter, who only though critically of the other (and their respective parties and political leanings), then that would be a dealbreaker.
geekinthepink Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Yes, as nutty as this seems, and in THIS particular election, I noticed a lot of hate....on both parts, it's like if you vote for one person, and the other person isn't voting for the same person, you're considered some kind of scumbag. Will the man/woman you date, will the first question you ask..."Who you voted for?" and they tell you, and it's not something you like...will that be a dealbreaker? And if it is...wouldn't you think that's silly to consider it a dealbreaker? Though, not sure if this should be in the "DATING" part...but this segways into the hate now. I sometimes afraid to say who I voted for to ANYONE if they ask, because they might wind up heating me......not that I should care I suppose...but I'm noticing HATE in general to opposing voters. Heck, physical fights are breakin' out at some polls, so I've heard in some news stories. What's your take on this? I have noticed an incredible amount of hate with this election too. I am the kind of person who enjoys being able to have debates over topics and not taking the disagreement personally and able to go back to things being a-ok when the conversation is over. The only time I have gotten truly upset, or been angry after the fact is when I receive answers like "Oh I'm voting for Obama because he is black, or I'm voting for McCain because I think that Palin is HOT" or other ridiculous reasons to vote for any candidate. Other than that, no, political differences of opinion are not deal breakers for me.
Author Bells Posted November 4, 2008 Author Posted November 4, 2008 Yeah, I heard some woman who said she was having truck problems, that it veers to the right all the time, and she says it also has a tendency aim towards Obama voters. Wierd off the wall remarks, hateful remarks like that. It's like the Hatfield vs the McCoys. Like D Jam said.
Star Gazer Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I'd be more concerned with the why than the who in THIS election. However, it is a complete dealbreaker for me if they voted for Bush in the 2004 election. He fooled you once, shame on him. He fooled you again? You're an idiot.
Sks Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I would not date one who did not have my personal outlook on politics, or one who I did not believe I could mold into embracing my view.
D-Jam Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I could date someone who more believes in conservative/republican ideologies, provided They respect my beliefs as I respect them. Not try to evangalize me, or demean me because I don't carry their belief system.She's not hardcore about it. Meaning she won't be suddenly bothered to no end if I didn't believe in what she believed.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I'd be more concerned with the why than the who in THIS election. However, it is a complete dealbreaker for me if they voted for Bush in the 2004 election. He fooled you once, shame on him. He fooled you again? You're an idiot. Oh yeah, we'd be in a much better place with Herman Munster at the helm! That woulda fixed everything! lol. What a tough decision that was. I can't imagine why the dems thought a boob like Kerry would win.
2sure Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 As to dating, and polite conversation, I suppose I would initially abide by the old rule not to discuss politics, money, or religion. Ahem. However! I am trying to teach my daughter this: *It is your right, privilage, and obligation to vote. *Vote intelligently, research issues. A pretty face and expensive advertising usually win, lets change that. *Your vote is a secret ballot. If you believe strongly in a candidate, you can offer more support by telling people who you are voting for and why. *Don't argue with other peoples choices , just state the facts if need be. * This is a democracy. Please participate. Attend a fund raiser, man the phone banks, put up a sign. As to the hate issue - thats awful. I feel strongly regarding my political opinions but there is no room for hate. Again, DEMOCRACY.
flc Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Politics like religion is a personal choice and my view is that the person is making the choice on the belief that they want things to be better not worse. So I believe that if they are sincere in this then I am happy with their motive and not concerned about trying to change their view. In the end it is very difficult to determine how a candidate will actually perform in office or what their legacy will be. History is the judge.
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