nama Posted November 4, 2008 Share Posted November 4, 2008 I gave up my job 3 months ago to pursue my dream of teaching. Since then I've been teaching on and off (doing substitute work) whilst looking for a permanent post. But as time goes by I keep questioning whether I have got what it takes. I know I'm a good teacher - I've been told on numerous occasions and I believe deep down that I am. But because I'm not working full time yet i.e. dont have a permanent post people in my life question whether I'm doing the right thing and whether I'm in the right profession. Coupled with this and my inexperience this is really getting me down. I keep asking myself whether I'm doing the right thing - should I give it up and find another permanent job etc. What makes it worse is that my self-doubt is so bad that I can talk myself out of anything. And I know if I don't sort this out I will talk myself out of teaching. On the whole I come across as a very confident woman but my lack of faith undermines nearly everything I do. This ranges from the clothes I wear (I believe I cannot carry anything off) to dating men (I'm single and have been for 2 years). I think this comes from having an overly critical father and controlling parents. I went to see a psychotherapist a few years back about this but all she could say was 'stop thinking and just live your life'. I didn't find this particularly helpful as that is easier said than done! Please help! Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted November 4, 2008 Share Posted November 4, 2008 Oh gosh yes, that's like a doctor treating you for stress and saying "you need to relax more!" Er..... How, exactly.....?! But I can see what they mean. We are very often our own worst enemies, and will deliberately sabotage our own success, because we somehow cannot believe that what we do cuts the mustard. It's like 99 people telling you how cool you look in that jumper, but just one person in that 100, questioning whether really, it's your colour....? Despite being in the heavy minority - their comment sticks in our minds more than the 99 complimentary ones! What you need to do is to find a counsellor who specialises in career problems, and ascertain exactly when and why these sentiments of lack of self-worth began. Unless, of course, you know already. That being the case - what are you gaining form deliberstely dwelling on it? because (forgive me for saying so) but nobody's making you feel inadequate, but you. It all starts in our heads, with what we tell ourselves. You control your thoughts. And a thought can be changed...... Link to post Share on other sites
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