my girlfriend kissed another guy?

[jaydawkens]

she phones me in the morning Before she kisses the guy and says shes going to phone me at Lunch at school cause we go to diffrent schools.. and at lunch i dont know when its been 50 minutes and she still hasnt phoned me so i phone her and her voice is diffrent than usual i thought something was wrong but it wasnt that bad i thought. after school i take her bus to her school I hug her we both kiss and we are going to catch the other bus going to my house.. when on the bus her friend whispers in her ear, i asked what was that she said something about socials and i was like okay, Off the bus we are walking she starts saying stuf like.. "What would you think would be good advice to give to Kelsey(friend) If she kissed another guy and she doesnt want to tell her bf and shes scared to.

i said to her 'well i would tell the truth and say it right to him. he might be disapointed but still at least he would know that shes truthful (thinking to myself telling her that its good to tell the truth) then she starts mixing up her words like ' But what if I tell him~~ i mean she tells him and he doesnt talk to her i said well idk. if he really does love her then he will talk to her and figure things out then she mixes up her words again.. i get a little suspicious. then as were walking i say well if kelsey really wants him to stay with her she would tell her boyfriend as soon as possible.. then i seen her stop 'dead in her tracks' she tells me.. I kinda kissed another guy and stands there.. she starts to cry and hugs me.. she tells me the whole story and she said his Blue eyes looked like mine and she missed me.. but i dont know if that was a lie or not? she says she still wants to be friends with him.she only did it once and says she will never do it again i never said anything but what should i do?? Im thinking im going to skip half of my school' Take my bike and bike to her school and kick the crap outta this kid. i dont know what to do.. if i dont get any responces otherwise im doing it tomorrow and getting Expelled from school.. or suspended idk. please help me ..

[PrincessPeach]

Kicking the crap out of the kid might feel good, but I don't think it will solve anything.

 

Her telling you that she still wants to be friends with the guys she kissed is a big no-no!! That gives the completely wrong message to that other guy and is totally unfair to you. Maybe she can be trusted (and that's kind of in question at the moment), but can you trust that guy? NO!

 

She is in no position to tell you what she wants. If she really cares about you and your relationship she should have asked or offered to do what you wanted her to do about it and not said anything about herself or wanting to stay friends with the guy. How would she feel if you kissed a girl and then said that it won't happen again but you still wanted to be friends with her? I guarantee she wouldn't like it too much.

 

You don't really have the power to tell her who she should or shouldn't be friends with (and doing so won't help your situation), but the fact that she still wants to be friends with this guy is major disrespect to you. You don't have power over her friendships, but you do have the power over your relationship with her.

 

If I were you I'd walk away from the relationship. You deserve better.

[theobserver]

Before I begin you might find you'll get more replied if you punctuate and paragraph your post because not everyone will take the time to read your post if it strains the eyes, I however did.

 

First of all BREATHE. I'm not one to say age matters so much in situations like these but it does she's very immature but she's also going to make some candid mistakes. Understand that in high school where I presume you are it's just how it is that many of the relationships don't last more then a month or so that's just how it is most people are testing practicing what they want in a partner. Others might not themselves indulge in the dating game but observe behavior of those that do to establish what they want as a partner.

 

The point is your girlfriend made a mistake but regardless of age she has shown you a great disrespect and you've been given a hint to her future personality which could cause problems if you remain with her.

For example she kissed this guy merely because he reminded her of you ? hmmm If that itself isn't her Bullshi**ing then I would hate to see what she does one day when you have to be apart for a week with no telephone/internet contact.. do you see what I'm saying, it's a sign she isn't the time that can hold out and wait?

 

To top it off rather then telling you this will never happen again she tells you she wants to remain friends with him? " Baby I kissed a guy but only because he reminded me of you. Also I still want to be his friend"

Sounds ridiculous right.

 

I would suggest you do not go seek out this boy to fight him, you do not know the full story and fighting him will only get you in trouble and possibly ruin your life. Your ego has been bruised I get that but take a look in this forum it makes you no less of a man successful doctors, lawyers teachers or just plain old fathers have been cheated on it can happen to anyone it can be a kiss , emotional or sexual cheating but you are not the loser who has to make up for her mistakes she is.

 

By saying she wants to remain friends with this guy who you haven't even met and who you now know she could decide to kiss again says alot. Most likely she likes this guy a lot and when she is confident she wants to date him will drop you like a hot brick. I understand this girl could be your first but you need to think of the future she's giving you crocodile tears something teenage girls are experts at, and you've been made a fool.

 

I can't tell you what to do BUT if I was you IN MY OPINION I would break up with her, explain exactly why I am and cut my losses. She would grow from this and so will you. That said you could also choose to forgive but ask to meet this boy considering she "still wants to be his friend" bizarre as the request is and find out exactly what happened. Personally though I still think if she was fully remorseful she would say she wont talk to him again within reason but she is young as you are and things aren't always that easy in a school setting.

 

Best of luck and hope you get more advice. You might want to a parent too it never hurts to call on their wisdom if they have any.

[Ken102]

JAYDAWKINS MAN !!! **** dont worry i know how your feeling man, im in the exact same situation. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 14 months and like last week on friday she went to a beach hang out thing for her school.

 

that night she was asking me weird questions too, she was saying things like "what would you do if i hooked up with another guy" and "would you still love me and would you take me back ?" and "what if i was only interested in this guy but didnt love him"

 

man i was like wtf ? and like i said to her well i dont think things will ever be the same between us. and then she said to me that she was only asking cos her parents were telling her a storey about another couple in that situation and she just wanted to know what i would do.

 

man i did exact same as you, next day which was saturday i took 4 buses to see her at work, i waited from 9 till 2 to see her on her lunch break that goes for 20 minutes, she kissed me we hugged but that night i asked her what the storey about the couple was abuot and she said um alot when telling me about it and i knew i forced it out of her.

 

she told me she was sorry and she loves me and dosnt wanna lose me and im the world to her and stuff and she only kissed him like a peck on the lips. **** it hurts aye someone you trust soo much go and screw you over like that. man right now we are broken up but like i still dont know what to do cos like she wants to get back with me and i wanna get back with her too but she said she still wants to be the guys friend... like wtf... and i was like no if you wanna get back with me you never talk to him ever again and now im going to be hell strict on her. i gave her another chance, we arnt going back out yet but we will soon

 

hey man, deep down inside you know if shes worth forgiving or not. if you know deep down inside you truly care and love this girl then forgive her dont give her up, i mean sure there are plenty of girls out there but are they like your girl right now ? everyone makes mistakes its only human. but if i were you i would make tell her to decide who she wants, you or that other dude, if she picks you then tell her if she wants you then to never talk stay away from that guy she kissed. or else she will lose you forever. oh and btw dont go down smack that kid. its not worth your effort bro, i wanna go down to my gfs school with all my mates and murder that guy my gf kissed but if you think about it its not worth your effort man especially if its going to get you busted

 

save it for when you see him out, then ****ing murder him break his jaw. i would help you if i could lol

[rod_in_gtown]

First of all, you're not in a relationship with the guy, it's not his responsibility to make sure your girlfriend is loyal to you. It's all on her, she kissed another guy. Big deal, we all make mistakes. She might do it again, are you willing to take her back if she does it again? I'm all for second chances but she has to know that if she betrays your trust again, then it's over. She's got fair warning.

 

On the other hand, if she's a cheater then why do you want to be with her?

 

The other guy may or may not be a dick for kissing a girl who has a bf, but the infidelity is not on him, it's on her. If she's not strong enough to miss you and do something about it WITH YOU, then you're better off without her.