alwayssme Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I haven't cried lately...and whenever I feel like crying I just remind myself how much he's out there living his life and doesn't cry over me nor does he love me anymore, so right away I stop even thinking about him and I just get angry as to why he changed so much. It's weird, I almost see him as a stranger. I've turned cold, because for the past 3 months I have been hurting extremely, now all that pain has turned into "whatever" type of attitude. For some reason the way he used to be seems like a distant memory and I feel like I don't even know him anymore. Weird. I guess my question is: is this a step towards moving on? Will I go back to feeling sad and being miserable? Or have I finally accepted this and am slowly letting go? I know if I hear he's with someone else or see a picture of him with someone else, it would really hurt me. I guess I just don't want to know about him at all. I know I haven't moved on but am I slowly getting there?
lofi_tokyo Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Yeah! You're doing it Always!! ;D:D You're out of the denial process, as established a few days ago... and... from what you just described, thats a phase I went through as well after denial. Refusing to cry. If you end up following my pattern, then the next few weeks of NC are gonna kill you. You'll flip flop between YAY I'm good with life to BOO I miss him. Stay strong! Before you know it you'll be where I am, which is ... 95% over him. It feels wonderful to say that, and soon you'll feel the same!
Dmoney28 Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Wow always...you are a stronger person than i am. Much repsect to you and your progress. I wish i could hold out as long as you. I only know of the 7 day NC pain. (my ex contacts me...im too much of a wuss not to answer, my circumstances are way diffrent). But keep it up Girl, you'll be out there in no time with a new bright out look on life. I honestly will look to your post's(i read them all) when and if it comes to total NC and moving on for me.
electriclove Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I'm following a lot of your posts because I see a lot of similarities in our situations! You seem to be doing a lot better than me though, I wish I was at that stage lol. I thought I had got through the denial stage but don't think I'm fully there yet Still crying a lot and I'm soon gonna have to break my fingers cos I'm getting that close to ringing him! Think one of the main reasons I can't get out of the denial stage though is because I'm not keeping myself occupied enough, so my brain has time to wander and think about the ex and how much I miss him. Seeing your post spurs me on cos I want to be angry at him. The goal is to eventually not care about him at all and for him to be just a distant (maybe fond) memory. We can do this I know we can! Stay strong.
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