Bells Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 There's this girl I've been talking to lately. She has been returning my calls, however when I suggested getting together this Friday, she said she wasn't sure, because she's been having friends already asking her to hang with them this Friday. Maybe it's her culture...she's Philipino and been in this country for about 6 months. I think her friendships are more important than dating, but she is saying, "We'll see" come Friday. Thing is, she stays out of town at a hotel during the week...so she has to cram in her social life on the weekends. So I am not sure how to work this. I didn't mention anything about hanging out with HER and her friends...but...it's more of a "we'll see" kind of thing.
PrincessPeach Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Tell her to ditch her other plans (which don't even sound like very solid plans to begin with) and come have fun with you. Already have something to do together in mind when you suggest she drop whatever else and come with you. Be confident that she should want to spend her Friday with you the next time you bring it up. Take her away in a manly fashion. I'm horrible at making decisions of what to do or where to go. I like my man to be sure in his decision-making and sometimes it's a relief that I don't have to do it myself. If she's not into it she probably doesn't like you that much.
Author Bells Posted November 4, 2008 Author Posted November 4, 2008 Tell her to ditch her other plans (which don't even sound like very solid plans to begin with) and come have fun with you. Already have something to do together in mind when you suggest she drop whatever else and come with you. Be confident that she should want to spend her Friday with you the next time you bring it up. Take her away in a manly fashion. I'm horrible at making decisions of what to do or where to go. I like my man to be sure in his decision-making and sometimes it's a relief that I don't have to do it myself. If she's not into it she probably doesn't like you that much. That concept occured to me as well, I mean she has no problem returning my calls, and we talked on the phone for about 30 mins last night getting to know each other a little bit. But I'm not sure it's a cultural thing or what....but she doesn't seem to understand the concept of a "Date" I thought about setting her straight by saying, "The concept of a date is, to actually give UP an evening with your buddies to go out with a guy, I don't know how they do it in your country, but the man prefers you spend time with him, OVER an evening with HIS friends...I know I would doing the same if I was interested in a cute girl, I'd definately forgoe hanging out with "Norm and friends at Cheers, LOL!"...." (Esp if I think I might get to make out with you.....screw my friends!, lol.....well, just kidding...lol) But, then that might sound like I would be overbearing and possessive...but common sense only tells you should give up an evening with "friends" to spend it with a date, right?
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 In a lot of countries dating is very different from the US. Group things are much more common, and the whole dating process seems to be less formal.
Meet 4 Coffee Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Now you're using "She doesn't seem to understand the concept of a Date" and her ethnic culture as excuses as to why she just isn't that into you. She just isn't into you, buddy! That concept occured to me as well, I mean she has no problem returning my calls, and we talked on the phone for about 30 mins last night getting to know each other a little bit. But I'm not sure it's a cultural thing or what....but she doesn't seem to understand the concept of a "Date" I thought about setting her straight by saying, "The concept of a date is, to actually give UP an evening with your buddies to go out with a guy, I don't know how they do it in your country, but the man prefers you spend time with him, OVER an evening with HIS friends...I know I would doing the same if I was interested in a cute girl, I'd definately forgoe hanging out with "Norm and friends at Cheers, LOL!"...." (Esp if I think I might get to make out with you.....screw my friends!, lol.....well, just kidding...lol) But, then that might sound like I would be overbearing and possessive...but common sense only tells you should give up an evening with "friends" to spend it with a date, right?
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