mclovin Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 I'm in a relationship with someone who I have been good friends with for about a year. He and I know everything about eachother, laugh, have a terrific sex life, etc, etc. We love each other and he mentions marriage/kids, etc. He's very mature...more than me and things are great. However, there is a 7 year age difference between us. He's 22 and I'm 29. I look young for my age and he looks much older. Neither one of us sees a difference in age physically, mentally or emotionally. But is this unusual or ridiculous? What are opinions on this age difference??? Just curious. Thx.
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I don't see a problem with it really. I'm six years older than H. Whether or not it can work depends on how well you and he handle life milestones together from your different age standpoints.
lilcoco Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 depends on whether you both will be able to accept each other as one of you changes and your paths go in different directions. 7 year age gap not impossible. i married a man 20 years older, didn't work so well, but there was a plethora of other reasons besides age that was the downfall. I dated a man 10 years younger, we were great as friends, okay as lovers, but long term he couldn't keep up. Just because you look around the same age doesn't make a bit o' difference though.
Lizzie60 Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 I'm in a relationship with someone who I have been good friends with for about a year. He and I know everything about eachother, laugh, have a terrific sex life, etc, etc. We love each other and he mentions marriage/kids, etc. He's very mature...more than me and things are great. However, there is a 7 year age difference between us. He's 22 and I'm 29. I look young for my age and he looks much older. Neither one of us sees a difference in age physically, mentally or emotionally. But is this unusual or ridiculous? What are opinions on this age difference??? Just curious. Thx. WOW... 7 years is nothing.. especially when you're both in your 20's... This is NO age difference..
norajane Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 It depends. 7 years in the grand scheme of things is nothing. However, if you are 29 and looking for a forever relationship, marriage, and children soon, and he is only 22 and just getting started dating, you may not be looking for the same things right now. Those 7 years in your 20's are a time of great personal change and growth - you really discover who you are and will be as an adult. He might want to experience more of life - all that you did - before becoming ready to settle down. If you aren't concerned about that, then I don't see any issues in dating him.
Author mclovin Posted November 4, 2008 Author Posted November 4, 2008 Thanks people! Oh, just to clarify things. He brings up marriage, moving in together, having kids quite a bit. On the other hand, I just ended a marriage (and he knows all the details of that b/c he was a good friend of mine throughout that time frame and had a crush on me) so I wasn't looking for anything permanant in the first place. I have no kids btw. But anyway, I only dated a little prior to being with him. When he brings up marriage and stuff, I used to be blase about it, but now I've become more responsive towards him. It's almost like I'm the younger one b/c I feel like I never "explored life" and he already has. He's experienced long term relationships, dating, sex and also dealt with a great deal of family issues including taking care of his family financially/emotionally/etc after his father's death. He's definetly experienced more than me and he intimates he's ready to settle down and start his own family. He's definetly a stronger & more mature person than I am. Hell, he has pulled me out of the partying scene! I guess it's funny how life works. Here's a younger GUY who wants to settle down and is in love and there's me who is an older WOMAN and all I care about is career and partying! LOL! Thanks ppl.
BentSpine Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 It was amusing to find out you only had 7 years between you. From your post I expected 15-20 years although that wouldn't have detered my encouragement of your relationship.
You'reasian Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 He's definetly a stronger & more mature person than I am. Hell, he has pulled me out of the partying scene! I guess it's funny how life works. Here's a younger GUY who wants to settle down and is in love and there's me who is an older WOMAN and all I care about is career and partying! LOL! He's not going to get involved with a woman younger than him for obvious reasons - I guess you have something to offer him that younger girls can't?
D-Jam Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Nothing wrong with it. If the man was older then no one would worry. Enjoy it if you two love one another.
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