GuerreroAzteca Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 The biggest thing I have noticed in relationships is of course invasions of how much trust there is if any. There is always a dual argument here. I feel as I'm sure many of you feel that trust is built and not really just stumbled upon; and when you fall in love trust is not an automatic gain in a relationship. Take networking sites & cellphones, specially texting, I'm sure everybody at one point or another has wondered who was that?> or who is that>/? and why so late in the night? All these things trigger our curiousity & insecurities. The instant this happens is then trust not present?? I feel that when people are ready, they start being honest with themselves about these things. Where is the line that you can't cross? When are insecurities out of control? For trust to come along does there not need to be all out honesty first? I feel like honesty, full disclosure because of respect for feelings in a relationshp is needed in order to overcome some hurdles like the lingering ex that is on facebook or the girls that text your boy at odd times. (where is the harm in letting your significant other look at your emails, texts, all that stuff if there is nothing to hide? after all you would both be exercising honesty) I think it becomes invasion of privacy or spying when all out honesty has happened and there is absolutely no reason for such behavior. I do think some people can be paranoid and can have chemecal imbalances that cause depressions and anxieties, then thats a case all on its own. However those of us that are logical and understand feelings and are just traveling this life then where is the line? I will say that when texts/cell/networking sites make us insecure it is because something is already wrong or has been wrong and hopefully you are working it out. I feel that when there is nothing to hide then there should be full disclosure I know relationships that do it this way, however I also know relationships that do it on plain trust. Either way this is handled it does not secure a happy ending outcome, no one can make that happen but still, it is something to think about. There is a scene in the happening that stayed with me although the movie mainly sucked. Whalberg's girl keeps getting a call from some dude she had lunch with and keeps hiding it. Nothing really happened between them but she seems ashamed. It seems that people need to clearly define what is ok to them and what is not and the timing for that in a relationship seems to affect how the other person responds. It seems people need to be sincere about their feelings first and define their rights and wrongs. lots of relationshps out there are unaware of what it actually takes to gain trust. (what it actually takes i have yet to define lol) something to think about... (really bad at spelling lately)
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