CommitmentPhobe Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Regarding online dating. In real life, it has happened that, with time, I began see beauty in a woman's face where I didn't before. This possiblity will likely pass me by if I'm online. Yes that's very true. And someones aura/attitude/charisma/thing you can't put your finger on.... contributes more to their attractiveness than a mugshot taken from a flattering angle.
lovingme Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 online dating enables you to first get to know someone's personality rather than looks. you find that you're compatible with someone you never would've crossed paths with or even spoken to. you have to speak to them. you have to keep in contact. verses the real world of noisy bars, theaters you can't speak in, and trying to clear your schedule to make time to acually date. just make sure the person on the other side of the computer is exactly who they say that are.
Author Bells Posted November 5, 2008 Author Posted November 5, 2008 online dating enables you to first get to know someone's personality rather than looks. Actually, it's the opposite....they see your pic...and hit "DELETE"!
lovingme Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Actually, it's the opposite....they see your pic...and hit "DELETE"! i hope not!!
alphamale Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 So, I was wondering if this whole online thing is really doing us more harm than good? I would say it is since its made everything more casual. And we all know you get out what you put in.
FleshNBones Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 Nope, I'm 30 and don't want to get married or meet any man... or men. I want to be alone. Forever. The subject isn't moot to me because if I WERE interested in meeting men I would have no problems being rude.Sour grapes. Don't get the idea that I in any way sympathize for you. You brought your dating troubles onto yourself. Any, dare I say it, decent guy would avoid rescuing you from yourself.
FleshNBones Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 Actually, it's the opposite....they see your pic...and hit "DELETE"! That's been my experience. It makes me wonder just how literate and lazy most of the online women are.
FleshNBones Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 I would say it is since its made everything more casual. And we all know you get out what you put in.I put in over 30 well written and insightful emails. I got a few responses, and they all eventually flaked out on me. Not a single date. Most of the women are losers. They are failures in their personal and professional lives with nothing to offer.
cutegirl Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 Sour grapes. Don't get the idea that I in any way sympathize for you. You brought your dating troubles onto yourself. Any, dare I say it, decent guy would avoid rescuing you from yourself. Dating problems? I never date to be honest. I don't want to be in a relationship. I don't need a man to complete me. I am complete and content on my own. Why is there something wrong with a woman just because she wants to be single and not have kids and not date? Not all women dream of getting married. I NEVER did and kids irritate me. I am on this board because I do like to read about people's problems, its fun sometimes when I'm bored. And I also like reading the other forums too, such as family etc...
Shygirl15 Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 I put in over 30 well written and insightful emails. I got a few responses, and they all eventually flaked out on me. Not a single date. Most of the women are losers. They are failures in their personal and professional lives with nothing to offer. lol... Losers because they didn't find you appealing enough to respond? What does that make you, then?
Author Bells Posted November 6, 2008 Author Posted November 6, 2008 Dating problems? I never date to be honest. I don't want to be in a relationship. I don't need a man to complete me. I am complete and content on my own. Why is there something wrong with a woman just because she wants to be single and not have kids and not date? Not all women dream of getting married. I NEVER did and kids irritate me. I am on this board because I do like to read about people's problems, its fun sometimes when I'm bored. And I also like reading the other forums too, such as family etc... No dream of getting married, that's not uncommon, alot of people in relationships and living together. Don't want kids...there's plenty of people that don't want kids either. Not date....I don't buy that.
cutegirl Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 No dream of getting married, that's not uncommon, alot of people in relationships and living together. Don't want kids...there's plenty of people that don't want kids either. Not date....I don't buy that. Why don't you buy not dating? I'm not sociable and have other interests to keep me busy. There are plenty of other things I'd rather do than have to endure making conversation with a guy and such... I'm a solitary person and not sociable. I don't like to go to clubs/bars etc. I'd rather be home surfing numerous message boards, such as this one, or watching tv at home... Why is it so hard to believe that there are women out there that do not want to date? What's the point of dating if you don't want a relationship? I don't find it fun to date, I don't get anything out of it. Why go on a date when I can enjoy a good meal with another girlfriend or by myself? I don't understand why you don't get that there are people that do not enjoy dating. I don't feel comfortable having to eat and talk to people I don't really know, I much prefer the company of a good female friend where we know each other. I don't even have male acquaintances or talk to men on the phone. All I need in life is my girlfriends and money/my career.
cutegirl Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 Not date....I don't buy that. And FYI, I have never gone on a date in 30 years of my life, with a guy to a restaurant or movies etc with the purpose of getting to know each other.... I can't remember a time where I went one on one with a guy... Usually I spend my free time watching tv or surfing online or shopping... With my ex bf's we ended up just being together (I was young at the time, around 18 or so).... I refuse to go on dates or go on a date to a restaurant with a guy 1 on 1 with the purpose of getting to know each other to see if we like each other etc because I already made my mind to remain single so it would be pointless to have to endure that and I don't enjoy the company of strangers.
flc Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 That's been my experience. It makes me wonder just how literate and lazy most of the online women are. What does literacy have to do with it? I get emails from women that I find their picture unattractive and I may respond no thank you or not respond. If I don't find you physically appealing to me I don't care if you have a Pulitzer or Nobel I am not interested. Why do people think that a great personality or intellect can overcome no physical attraction or why physical attraction can overcome a poor personality? I want the whole package.
Author Bells Posted November 6, 2008 Author Posted November 6, 2008 And FYI, I have never gone on a date in 30 years of my life, with a guy to a restaurant or movies etc with the purpose of getting to know each other.... I can't remember a time where I went one on one with a guy... Usually I spend my free time watching tv or surfing online or shopping... With my ex bf's we ended up just being together (I was young at the time, around 18 or so).... I refuse to go on dates or go on a date to a restaurant with a guy 1 on 1 with the purpose of getting to know each other to see if we like each other etc because I already made my mind to remain single so it would be pointless to have to endure that and I don't enjoy the company of strangers. You have ex bf's....so you did date...so you lied. Why did you lie?
cutegirl Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 You have ex bf's....so you did date...so you lied. Why did you lie? Having ex bf's is not dating. It is different. Dating is going on a physical date, such as to a restaurant or movies with the purpose of getting to know someone. I have not been on a date. I don't date. I only had ex bf's but we never "dated"... probably because we were too young back then, I was around 18 or so... Now I don't date or have boyfriends. I like being alone and doing my own thing.
Author Bells Posted November 6, 2008 Author Posted November 6, 2008 Having ex bf's is not dating. It is different. Dating is going on a physical date, such as to a restaurant or movies with the purpose of getting to know someone. I have not been on a date. I don't date. I only had ex bf's but we never "dated"... probably because we were too young back then, I was around 18 or so... Now I don't date or have boyfriends. I like being alone and doing my own thing. I don't know what planet you're from....but that constitutes a date...when you went out on dates with your boyfriend when you did spend time with him. It is not possible to have a boyfriend and say you never dated. And being too young has nothing to do with dating, you can never be too young to date.
lovestruck818 Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 I agree. Online is forced...it's not a natural connection. I do notice a growing trend of online daters. And technology does make things very impersonal. I've always been a traditional guy and was never a fan of using email or texting as it makes things impersonal. I'd always be the one to pick up the phone and call people. But I find myself slowly getting sucked in because everyone else is doing it. I'm even emailing/txting my landlord if stuff goes wrong and she does the same also. In a way if you don't keep up with the times, then you're an old fart. As for the online dating aspect, I think if anything people take it for granted, abuse the fact that they think they have options, and get pickier in the process. I also think it's harder to develop chemistry with someone you meet online first VS having met in person first. But I don't think we should allow technology to be our achilles heel. It's beneficial for humanity if used in conjunction with old fashioned ways. If anything online dating only increases one's opportunity to meet others, especially if someone's always trapped at work.
Shygirl15 Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 I agree. Online is forced...it's not a natural connection. Have you ever dated online, Lovestruck?
lovestruck818 Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 Have you ever dated online, Lovestruck? for a few hours...felt it was very forced and fake and immediately deleted my profile...plus no one was hot.
FleshNBones Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 What does literacy have to do with it? I get emails from women that I find their picture unattractive and I may respond no thank you or not respond. If I don't find you physically appealing to me I don't care if you have a Pulitzer or Nobel I am not interested. Why do people think that a great personality or intellect can overcome no physical attraction or why physical attraction can overcome a poor personality? I want the whole package.Plenty have said hello, and it was obvious that they didn't look at my profile. It was just point-and-click "Hello". Not much different from point-and-click delete. I read and reread through every email, and 100s of pictured and pictureless profiles. I don't see why they can't do the same. I think the biggest limitation in my case is distance. In my experience, personality and intelligence are not a factors. Most seem to be after a certain look and a certain lifestyle.
alphamale Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 in the online dating world women have a vast advantage and definitely utilize it to the fullest extent
FleshNBones Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Why don't you buy not dating? I'm not sociable and have other interests to keep me busy. There are plenty of other things I'd rather do than have to endure making conversation with a guy and such... I'm a solitary person and not sociable. I don't like to go to clubs/bars etc. I'd rather be home surfing numerous message boards, such as this one, or watching tv at home... Why is it so hard to believe that there are women out there that do not want to date? What's the point of dating if you don't want a relationship? I don't find it fun to date, I don't get anything out of it. Why go on a date when I can enjoy a good meal with another girlfriend or by myself? I don't understand why you don't get that there are people that do not enjoy dating. I don't feel comfortable having to eat and talk to people I don't really know, I much prefer the company of a good female friend where we know each other. I don't even have male acquaintances or talk to men on the phone. All I need in life is my girlfriends and money/my career.I don't like clubs and bars either. I don't like or really want to date. I don't want or need a sex kitten. I would rather hit the tennis court, or ride my bike for a few dozen miles. I am far from being a social butterfly. I don't need anybody to "complete me". What I would like is a family and home of my own. Living on your own is fine, but sooner or later, the monotony of a daily/weekly/monthly/yearly routine will be too much. Have you ever felt the shock of years of your life just slipping by?
FleshNBones Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 I don't know what planet you're from....but that constitutes a date...when you went out on dates with your boyfriend when you did spend time with him. It is not possible to have a boyfriend and say you never dated. And being too young has nothing to do with dating, you can never be too young to date.I think she sees dating as a formal event. Technically, meeting with friends is considered a date.
forest123 Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 in the online dating world women have a vast advantage and definitely utilize it to the fullest extent But do they really? It is also an illusion. When you think about it, the men the "desirable" or "semi-desirable" women want are typically online players. Lets say the young , cute, single girl is seeking a man with a great job, nice car, certain height, attractive, honest, single, etc etc. The above is maybe a tiny % of online daters.(heck most estimates say 20% of online daters are married, lol.) So now this man, can do WHATEVER he likes... He can have sex with older women, younger women, different races, short, tall, skinny, fat etc etc. His options are LIMITLESS. He can also line up a date for every night of the week, if he so chooses, and have lovers on the side while he dates the new online chick. So, yes women get tons of emails, but 90% are from men they would never date. The other 9.999 % are players.. So have at it ladies.. Good luck..
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