Do you ever think about things your ex did, and if does it make you angry or mad?

[WiseOne1]

I've been on NC with my ex GF for a couple of weeks now. Sometimes I sit back and think how stupid I was to let ger get away with alot of those things she did.

Along time ago we broke up for about 2 months because her ex BF came back. He just got up and disappeared for 9 months, he didnt say anything, or didnt leave a message and even changed all of his numbers. Me and her was best friends for 5 years before we started dating.

 

So one day she says her ex found her on myspace and all her feelings came back for him, she said she still loved him and thought she was over him. I told her numerous times not to answer back to him on myspace but she did anyway, and then he started calling her again.

 

His excuse was that he forgot her number???? How do you forget someones number you've been dating for 3 years, I mean just forget??

BTW they were a long distance couple.

 

So this dragged on for about 2 months and then she wanted to get back together with me, she said she picked me over him, but I think that he dropped her and ran off again, thats my prediction.

She blamed me for the cause of her not loving me anymore, she says that I just wouldnt leave it alone, she says that I just wouldnt leave the past behind me, and that I pushed her away.

 

But what caused me to get upset and bring it up all the time, was because everytime her friend brought up her ex she started to cry or such, she said that it just brought back memories, thats still no reason to cry if your over that person!!!!

 

After awhile she finally got over him and started not to care what so ever about that sistuation, but by then she had ruined our relationship, she says I should have supported her when she was feeling down about her ex...

 

Should I have supported her, or did I have the right to be angry and upset?

[sedgwick]

I'm very angry. I spend a lot of time hoping he feels like an ass. He had a girlfriend who totally loved him, didn't lie, didn't cheat, didn't give him a hard time about constantly touring, supported his dreams, had her own life, told him often how hot he was, and was always ready to hop in the sack. He had everything he said he ever wanted, and he bailed. He gave me the stupidest excuse in the world, took off, and I never saw him again. I hope he feels at least a little bit like the MASSIVE JERK he is.

[ioncebelieved]

I used to think about all that stuff and her, but it does no good to recall old memories that were bad. My ex and I had some really special times too and that is what I like to remember, but I try and not think about it too much as it does my healing no good.

 

One day, I will forgive all of the stupid $hit my ex did and she will have to worry about the Karma she will receive. It will be well deserved when what went around comes back to her! Poetic justice indeed! I was pretty great to her and her loss for sure.

[ahhhchooo]

I still think of her negative qualities with some kind of fondness.

 

But at the same time, I wish I didn't.

[BackonTrack2]

Looks like you were her friend instead of her boyfriend.

Looks like she was comfortable with you to share anything with you even the fact that she's talking and seeing her boyfriend which is bad, she should know not to tell you certain things.

 

a) she was not over him hense her talking to him on myspace aka she still wanted to **** him

b) she would believe anything he says, lost the number or not, she's still in-love

c) why did you stay there and let her deliberate knowing you was up on a chopping block and her view was that she had options

d) **** her, how are you going to support her, she needs to get her own **** together.

 

She just tells you these things because in her head thats the way she was feeling but everyone has a heart and deep down she knows there is no way in hell you can support her to love someone else while you love her.. She knows that but rather than be mature she takes the easy routue home.

 

Forget that EX, she's not worth it, don't even think about it.

At the end of the day, there is no middle ground, either you want to be with me or you don't, she has to many issues. But you already know this, don't think about it at all.

 

But to answer your question:

 

President Bush to Sadam

"Hey Sadam, I am going to invade Afganistan, I need to use your bases"

 

Sadam

"Well Mr. Bush, I fear once you are on my bases, you will invade me"

 

President Bush

"Well Sadam, u have no real way of knowning and I can guarantee that if you don't allow me to use your bases, I will surely invade your country."

 

Thats a non-winable situtation.

 

When my ex's boyfriend was contacting her, I did nothing, I just did me. She made the choice to leave him, but that wasn't true as she had sex with him a few months later, then had sex with a new dude one month after that. (She takes NO down-time to be alone get over her feelings and truly move on)

 

Girls like this are trouble, they are needy and can't be alone, no support structure, they need someone to lean on.

 

Why support something that's going to cause you pain and hurt?

Why give a piece of your energy away to fight someone else's battle when you don't even know where their loyalities stand?

 

I've been on NC with my ex GF for a couple of weeks now. Sometimes I sit back and think how stupid I was to let ger get away with alot of those things she did.

Along time ago we broke up for about 2 months because her ex BF came back. He just got up and disappeared for 9 months, he didnt say anything, or didnt leave a message and even changed all of his numbers. Me and her was best friends for 5 years before we started dating.

 

So one day she says her ex found her on myspace and all her feelings came back for him, she said she still loved him and thought she was over him. I told her numerous times not to answer back to him on myspace but she did anyway, and then he started calling her again.

 

His excuse was that he forgot her number???? How do you forget someones number you've been dating for 3 years, I mean just forget??

BTW they were a long distance couple.

 

So this dragged on for about 2 months and then she wanted to get back together with me, she said she picked me over him, but I think that he dropped her and ran off again, thats my prediction.

She blamed me for the cause of her not loving me anymore, she says that I just wouldnt leave it alone, she says that I just wouldnt leave the past behind me, and that I pushed her away.

 

But what caused me to get upset and bring it up all the time, was because everytime her friend brought up her ex she started to cry or such, she said that it just brought back memories, thats still no reason to cry if your over that person!!!!

 

After awhile she finally got over him and started not to care what so ever about that sistuation, but by then she had ruined our relationship, she says I should have supported her when she was feeling down about her ex...

 

Should I have supported her, or did I have the right to be angry and upset?

[lofi_tokyo]

I have problems feeling angry with people. I definitely have angry moments, but I can't hold a grudge for more than a few hours. I guess with my most recent ex I had a definite two days of pure anger - which I think was my angry stage of grieving but I just can't do it!

 

I think its because I grew up in a really violent/angry household, and I just... don't ever want to feel like kind of hate towards anyone. Yeah. I can't remember the last time I was openly angry aside from my like, one angry post on LS, which I may or may not be imagining having written. I get annoyed, but never angry. Sometimes I wish I could, but it just does not work. I can't blame people for their mistakes, because I make mistakes too, and were all just human. OY!

[CherishG]

I don't know if its just my passive personality or I'm just "too nice" but I also find it very hard to be mad at someone, especially my current ex.

 

It would take ALOT to get me upset.

 

My ex broke up with me just out of the blue 2 months ago, without me even seeing it coming and it was because he thought he fell in love with a 17o girl...a girl he no longer is with as of now.

 

I really wish I could finally get mad at him so that I can move on, but I'm finding it very very hard doing so.

[WiseOne1]

Looks like you were her friend instead of her boyfriend.

Looks like she was comfortable with you to share anything with you even the fact that she's talking and seeing her boyfriend which is bad, she should know not to tell you certain things.

 

I dont love her anymore, I guess its just that I Feel that I could have been giving my love to someone that deserved it.

 

She said she picked me over her ex, and we stayed together for 7 months after that issue, but the past had ruined us.

 

Thanks for the response.