Dmoney28 Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 whats up with this statement by women ..."i think we should be friends right now". now this statement can fall under so may categories 1. you loose her trust (cheating, lying or hiding stuff from the past 2. after several years together you "fall out of love"..if thats even emotionally possible 3.they think the relationship is based on sex only. 4.they break up with you but do not hate you as a person can anyone...womem espeacially further explain this comment. now logically the dumpey is saying "um yeah...why would i want to be just "friends" with someone up until this point i LOVED." So why this need...and for the above circumstace...to be firends?
lofi_tokyo Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 She wants to be friends because shes used to having you in her life. She can't imagine not talking to you anymore, it would be too strange. That being said, she just plain does not want to date, its over.
gd26 Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 I don't think one can no what she meant without knowing the particular context. For that you'd have to ask her. If the relationship is over, then yes, saying she just wants to be friends means she no longer has romantic interest. However, if you are together with her, and she WANTS to be with you romantically... then her telling you that she needs you to be her friend might mean that you are putting too much emphasis to the sexual aspect of the relationship and not giving her friendship/emotional intimacy/ good conversations/ your attention, etc. After all, a quality relationship is based on a strong friendship, so she might be trying to strengthen that foundation. So really it depends on the context of what was being said, which I am unaware of.
SnowWhite924 Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 whats up with this statement by women ..."i think we should be friends right now". It means, she doesn't want a romantic relationship any longer but she still cares about you. She's used to talking to you and having you in her life so to break up entirely, she finds would be difficult. Also, by remaining 'friends' it's easier on her and she thinks it will be less hurtful for you.
brokenH Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 i agree with snowwhite924, my ex said why cant we be friends and those thoughts came to my head. i gave her the no answer. from my experience they want to be friends cus theyre used to having you around to share stuff with, so if youre friends shes gonna share stuff about her new bf with you. and im sure alot of us dont wanna listen to that. you will be friends for a while then later when shes over you as a friend shes gonna dump you again lol. i think being friends helps her more then helping yourself.
Lucky555 Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 I need more info to determine the context of "lets be friends" Were you in a relationship with her where you and her were bf/gr committed? Were you in a casual relationship ? Were you friends with her and tried to progress the relationship? Were you dating her and betrayed her trust? Are you trying to get to know her? Depends...
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 If she is genuine about wanting to be friends - then she'll act like a genuine friend and back off to give you the time you need to heal. If it is a self centered request, then she will suck your soul out through your heart by keeping you in her life as a boyfriend without boyfriend benefits. Some people really do want to preserve friendship, and others don't. Depends on how good of friends you were independent of your dating relationship.
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