Bewildered

[kylez411]

This is kinda new to me. Usually I'm more of a live and learn move on kinda guy. I have gone through a few breakups and everything has been pretty standard. But I started dating a girl early this year. It was an almost instant attraction and everything was going really good. Than about 6 weeks ago we got into a really big fight. Right after that I noticed that her ex bf was texting and calling and she was responding. I have been thru that before and was a bit pissed. While I really had strong feelings for this person and told her that I was not interested in going through this again. I decided that we needed a break and told her that she needed to make up her mind and I broke things off. The following week I got about 80 messages out of the blue from her all innocent asking for advice and such. There was some money involved that I had loaned her and we fought for about 2 or 3 weeks after that but even during so we still talked and I would still get text messages from her. After we had resolved the money issues I had around 180 text messages from her that was the week before last. Some were over some chairs that she wanted and some were about a stove she had for sale. But a lot were gentle reminders from things we did together, jokes, and just general chat, etc.. Than last friday night we texted back and forth, jokes and pictures and things all night till she went to bed. She woke me up Sat morning with text messages and this went on until the afternoon than I didn't here from her till sunday night when she asked for some advice on a project she is working on. I didnt get it until monday morning to which I texted her that I would talk to her later that night. Than on Monday afternoon I get a text message from her that said she didnt want to talk anymore, that I was interferring and not to call, text email etc... So I stopped.

 

I havent heard anything from her in a week. I sent one voice mail asking what the hell but didnt talk to her. And a second voice mail that I was ok with her decision and if she could just mail a small check to cover some things that she owed on. I havent gotten the check or a response.

 

All this time she told me she wasn't dating anyone or seeing her ex. But I have heard that she was seeing her ex. He is a complete *******, and Im not just saying that. That came from her own lips and her families. I guess that doesnt matter a whole lot to me as I have been seeing someone as well, and I was the one who did break up with her.

 

But I did care for her, and I still do. When I walked away it was for good than over the past 5 weeks felt my feelings change after talking with her. I am really just a bit confused as to what to do. I could tell from her calls and messages that she missed me, and she was thinking of me. I guess I feel the same. There were more problems in our relationship than just the ex coming back around, I could have put an end to that easy enough, hell she had put up with mine coming back aroiund. But there were things I did wrong as well as her that I did recognize and am hopefully going to improve on. But I am confused as how to proceed, I don't want to appear needy and tell her that I still care when she pretty much told me not to talk to her anymore. I guess I would just like a chance to have an honest conversation and see where it goes if it goes. Im just not sure how to get to that point. I know its not a question of other people, but what was and probably still is between us. Im just not sure why she would be making such an effort to stay in contact and to talk and than just want to cut it off. Or how to break that silence and get back to talking and see where it ends up before we both make mistakes.