CandyGirlXO Posted November 14, 2008 Share Posted November 14, 2008 Think about this...my dad was abusive to my mom. Started out small. Verbal abuse to physical abuse that got worse after marriage. My dad broke my Mom's back. After 3 failed back surgeries she is bedridden and has no life. Do you want this to be you? Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted November 14, 2008 Share Posted November 14, 2008 Do tell me you're done with this trash. If you still want to work things out, then he better get into an anger management program. You don't deserve this. Link to post Share on other sites
SierraRose Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 I have 2 words for you: GET OUT You will never change him-HE will never change him. The only person that you can help is yourself. I can tell you, when you are out of the picture he will find another woman, if he doesn't already have one on the side. He is animal that can not survive on his own. She will eventually recieve the brunt of abuse. Admitting you are in an abusive relationship to family is the hardest part. The best thing you can do is tell someone, and leave asap. Do informe the police when you are leaving. They may even escort you to the house just to be safe. Do not let on in the slightest you are going. Do it when he is at work, pack what you need..don't worry about furniture..that is replaceable. Grab clothes, pictures and and valubles...LEAVE. He will flip when he gets home...shut off your phone, go to a family members home AND STAY PUT... Stay and you will resort to a reclusive life, with beatings, verval and emotional abuse..and they will all get worse... My ex was abusive, same behaivors..it's cycle..GOOGLE domestic abuse. After 4 years was done. I got an RO and had him thrown out. He was gone for 4 months, lived with his sister, she threw him out and now he is living with another woman. They have been under the same roof for 2 months. She was in court for a domestic violence incident. The police have been to the apartment twice. He cracked her rib last Sunday... His g/f before me has an RO against him, I have an RO against him and current g/f is getting tossed around already. IT IS AN ENDLESS CYCLE.... Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 The abuse alone is enough reason to leave him. However you have another glaring reason to get out....you do know he has been cheating on you, right?? I would bet my life on it. Talk to your family or some close to you then leave him as fast as you can. Link to post Share on other sites
ahsumgurl909 Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 Listen to me, if you stay you will regret it for the rest of your life. Like I said i am 45 and stayed in every relationship that was just like this. I have missed out on life, REAL LIFE!! I have never been to Magic Mountain, Disneyland, I have never explored the good things in life due to the relationships I was in. But I don't blame the men I was with because it is my fault (Because I allowed them to treat me like that so they did) The first time a man treated me in a ill mannered way I should have told them to Kiss My Asprin. But I didn't and now at my age I'm totally messed up in a lot of ways. Just listen to us and get away from him. Never let a guy treat you like this guy is again. You are worth it. I wish i had a place like this to turn to then. Then I would of not allowed this to happen to me. I want you to know one thing. THE FIRST TIME YOUR A VICTIM THE SECOND TIME YOUR A VOLUNTEER. And once you do that volunteering your never gonna believe your worth anything more then what your getting. I am telling you the truth. I felt sorry for my abusers too. And its bull****. They are the worst kind of male to love dont do this to yourself. :mad::mad: Link to post Share on other sites
PinkOrchid Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Get away from this guy as soon as you can, or you will end up in a situation like mine (or even worse). You have no ties to him - no children, etc - so cut him loose. You CAN'T help him or change him. Just help yourself. It is better to be alone than with an abuser, right? Link to post Share on other sites
rainbowbrite Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 i have also been in an abusive relationship. u need to run and get out now, before you cant. he has alienated you from having anything..such as a job, etc. thats what he wants, he wants to control your entire life. abusers only get worse and worse. you think its bad now, but wait. he will not change. he is seriously disturbed. trust me, i have been going to therapy to help me get over the abuse. i wish you the best of luck. and i kno what ur going through Link to post Share on other sites
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