loverich Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 OK I need some help. I met this guy about three months ago and we were both just looking for friends with benefits. So after being with each other a few times and getting to know each other, we have both fallen hard for each other...can say we are in love. So then, a couple of days after we realized this, he drops the bomb of the EX. He was with her for four years and lived with her for two. She broke up with him five months ago but kept his dog. He says that he kinda wants to get back together with her but also wants to be with me. I have tried to be supportive while he is working on figuring this out but seems like he doesn't want to lose either of us. He says if she knows he is with me, she will be gone forever. He thinks that if they get back together, me and him will still be friends but I told him that I couldn't be his friend after what we are feeling right now...it would be too hard. We both fell pretty hard very fast and I don't know what to do.It is still hard to believe. Should I wait, if so how long, he told me this a month ago? Or should I let him go? I am torn on what to do here!!! Help me someone!!!!!!!!!
D-Lish Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 The worst mistake to make is to remain supportive to him through this ridiculous decision he is making. He's obviously in contact with her while he is with you, is that okay with you? I see that as a huge breach of trust and a pretty big insult. Never allow yourself to be an option. Your best course of action is to walk away from all of this. He can't miss what you have if you remain available and "supportive" to him. You will have much more of an impact on his "decision" if you tell him you won't allow yourself to be an option to him when you know you are worthy of being someone's priority.
Vertex Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 I agree with D-Lish. Make the choice easy for him.
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