Caitlan Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 My best friend has been talking long distance to a man for almost a year. Her in CA him in Mt. She did most of the keeping in contact as if he didn't get back to her in a week etc. she would always send something to get things going again. They met recently and he is acting like he's totally into her now. Thats great except for the past stuff. Before they met, he would often blow up and say really mean things to her... I mean really bad tempered stuff that I would have said goodbye to. She had dumped him a couple months ago because of his meanness and he went into pursue mode when she dumped him and was being really nice (with only a couple of bad tempered explosions). So now that they have met she says hes totally into her. My thing is the way he was to her in the past was pretty bad and regardless of the "change" (she says he's amazing and wonderful now), my thing is a person (in his 50's and never married) doesn't change that much and the blowing up/meaness will return. He also told her that he has dated numerous married women and even told her how he had seduced them in a manipulative way to get sex from them. He also is living with someone right now but says it's over yet he's still there. He never told her that is was living with someone while they were doing the long distance texting/phone. I don't trust the guy but I'm trying to be supportive as any little thing I say negative even slightly, like asking about the woman he's still with and I'm shut down quickly. I know people can change but this guy gives me bad vibes because of his past. Can people change that much in a matter of weeks or should I just shut up and let her go off thinking that marriage is down the road and be supportive? Link to post Share on other sites
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