macwriter Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 I think I come across as a confident guy. In good shape. Good looking (I've dated some very attractive women). My approach to dance clubs, is if I wanted someone to dance, it usually is just me and her. But given women travel in packs, they often dance in groups. I see some guys just go up to women and start dancin' with 2 women at a time...within minutes they're all grindin' on each other. I realize that women probably just see it as a wild time and that's it. As a woman, do you like it when you're dancing and a stranger just comes up to you and your friend(s) and starts dancin' with you? And how far are you willing to go with that guy at that point (i.e kissing, grabbin)...is it just a matter of how drunk you are? And is this the kind of guy you'd seriously consider dating?
BlueHarvest Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Never really been a fan of dance clubs. but then again I'm extremely self-concious. And honestly IF I WERE A WOMAN. No I wouldn't want to date a guy who likes grinding on multiple women at once. You think he'll respect you? Hell no. If you just wanna ****..then go **** your brains out. But if you want to date...that's an entirely different story. Clubs/Bars/Etc are fine for one night stands, ****-buddies, etc. But if your looking for a quality mate in those places you might be dissapointed.
You'reasian Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 While I enjoy visiting those places just to kick back, I try to refrain from meeting women at these places because most of the time, the relationships lead no where really fast.
Lucky555 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 I love dancing! I don't go out a lot to clubs since I have other priorities. I don't take home guys i meet at clubs either. However, i love the loud music and just having a good time. I dance in a group with my friends that I go with. If a cute guy is dancing near me and smiles, usually i will make eye contact and invite him to dance. I usually have had a few drinks..as have all my friends. Not drunk but still can pick out a good looking guy that wants to dance! We don't go up and ask guys to dance, guys work their way over by dancing "near us, making eye contact smiling, and thats how its done i suppose" I have seen guys stand near the side of where girls are dancing and a girl might like him and make eye contact or want to dance with him. I don't see guys at the club as potential to "date" unless they inquire about me. in particular this one guy got my number which i NEVER DO, but he managed it by asking about what i do, how is that going for you, telling me about himself, and overall being a genuine guy. Hope that helps.
Author macwriter Posted November 2, 2008 Author Posted November 2, 2008 definitely the answers I was hopin' to hear as they fit my personality better...I just wonder sometimes if I'm too conservative and should just go let it all hang out--not a matter of tryin' to be someone I'm not, but sayin', maybe I need to push myself to be more forward...I think based on the answers my approach is fine.
taiko Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 Suddenly I feel very old. New social norms are out there which I had no ideal existed.
Crazy.S Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 i hate those packs of girls lol... they are so judgmental. but there is a way to work them. you have to win the friends' approval before they let their friend dance with you. how you do it? i don't know lol havent been very successful at that. just be a smooth talker
BubblyPopcorn Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 As a woman, do you like it when you're dancing and a stranger just comes up to you and your friend(s) and starts dancin' with you? And how far are you willing to go with that guy at that point (i.e kissing, grabbin)...is it just a matter of how drunk you are? And is this the kind of guy you'd seriously consider dating? I guess it depends on the woman's age. When I was younger yes and how far I was willing to go was kissing. Now-a-days not really not that I'm opposed to it but you kind of grow out of it, I'd still dance but that's it and I prefer convo over making out with someone and def no grabbing, that warrants a slap on the face
Storyrider Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Yeah, people didn't grind on the dance floor last time I was in a dance club, probably around 1989. I think they were playing this... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLv_eWjMUpI
BubblyPopcorn Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Yeah, people didn't grind on the dance floor last time I was in a dance club, probably around 1989. I think they were playing this... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLv_eWjMUpI OMG that's so old school!! Wait remember the percolator lol!
Storyrider Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 OMG that's so old school!! Wait remember the percolator lol! I must have missed that one, but that is funny. How about this?
amaysngrace Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Bring a girl you are dating to the club and then you can grind on each other. You can't go too far if you're into each other. Nobody is watching what you're doing anyway. They are too busy getting their groove on with the one they're with to pay any attention to you.
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