reelbigfish Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 I have a situation that has arisen. I was out for Halloween and other than a very short email I haven't talked to my ex in over a month. She is with a new guy and has been with him for 3-4 months now. I was trying to text a friend (I had a lot to drink) on Halloween and let her know there were not metal detectors where we're going - and her name is right next to my ex's name in my phone (alphabetical). I accidentally texted the ex instead of the friend a message that said "no metal detectors - you are ok" and my ex replied saying that she was confused. I obviously realized my mistake at that point and texted her back saying it was suppose to be for someone else have a good halloween. She then gets all chit chatty via texts because she isn't doing anything for halloween. I tried to keep it short and she asked me to call her sometime this weekend so I obliged. My question is what to do? She has a new boyfriend and yes I would love a second chance but I have no expectations of that. Should I just forget that it happened and don't call her at all? Should I call her and just say the text was a mistake - hope things are well - and cut the convo really short? Thanks for the advice guys!
northstar1 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 You told her the text was a mistake. She has a bf. Don't call her. What good will it do?
Author reelbigfish Posted November 2, 2008 Author Posted November 2, 2008 It'll do absolutely no good - I understand that. I don't want her to think that I'm unreliable is the main thing. That I won't follow through with what I say I will do. I was thinking of following through - calling her - keeping the conversation very short - and then continuing on with NC after that as that has proven to be best for me so far. If the general consensus is to just not call though - I am happy doing that as well.
northstar1 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 It'll do absolutely no good - I understand that. I don't want her to think that I'm unreliable is the main thing. That I won't follow through with what I say I will do. Sounds like you are a good guy, but at this point you need not to care if she thinks you are unreliable or not. She has a bf now, that's his problem to be reliable. You need to look out for yourself. I wouldn't contact her, it might just make you feel awful. I'd leave it be. IF she truly wants to talk to you in the future, she'll reach out.
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