hgman Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 So I work at this marketing firm, and I met this pretty cool chick who works in a different dept. We've hung a few times with other coworkers, and we've hung out a few times when it was just the 2 of us. Although considering I've known her for a few months, I want to say we havent hung out as much as I've liked. Our work relationship is a little odd in some ways. As in we never really talk or see each other when at work for the most part, unless i happened to run into her in the hall. Other than that, we dont seem to seek each other out. Yet oddly enough we do talk at work through AIM on the computer. She also tends to speak to my coworkers near my cube in person, yet she rarely and I mean rarely talks to me at my own cube. Also when we did have lunch a few times, we would always meet up outside the building, almost as if she doesnt want other people at work to see us. I dont know how to interpret that really. She seems to play games and for the most part, I play games back, because I just feel I have to play them if shes gonna play them. There are times when ill ask her to do something, but shes got plans, and there are times when she'll ask what im doing on the weekend, and I'll tell her im busy with plans. I want to say shes into me somewhat, as she'll ask me why we dont have lunch more often and joke about when I'll make her dinner. We suggest that we should do stuff more often, but yet it just never happens. I never really call her, and only text her a few times here and there. But I want things to escalate a little more. But I feel Im always the one thats initiating contact and yet nothing is really happening. And I dont want to have to keep initiating cuz I dont want to be annoying or needy for attention. I just dont know how to approach it so that things escalate.
535478 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Does your employer have any rules about dating people from work? Is it frowned upon? Or maybe she's apprehensive about the attention or the gossip if everybody in the office knew about you guys? I would say consider all of the reasons she might act that way, don't just assume it's something wrong with you.
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