Would it be OK to ask a girl who is a friend to see if she wants to fool around?

[Brady_to_Moss]

She has liked me and still does and we havent done anything about it but could i say to her something about maybe trying to fool around one night? Or is that a big no no. There is physical attraction.

[Geishawhelk]

Don't ask her.

Take the initiative and kiss her.

 

see where that takes you.

Actions speak louder than words.

You'll get from the response, if it's a no-no....or a yes-yes......

[Brady_to_Moss]

Don't ask her.

Take the initiative and kiss her.

 

see where that takes you.

Actions speak louder than words.

You'll get from the response, if it's a no-no....or a yes-yes......

 

 

Yea that would deff be alot better. Why is our society like this though? Its ok for a girl to ask a guy but not the other way around?

[D-Lish]

Yea that would deff be alot better. Why is our society like this though? Its ok for a girl to ask a guy but not the other way around?

 

I've never asked...

 

Honestly, if there is an attraction- it's not a friendship. If it's a one sided attraction, it's awkward. If it's a mutual attraction- give in and plant one on her.

 

Why are you complaining about your big gut and non-action with b**chy chicks. Things seem to be okay with you.

[Meet 4 Coffee]

Why don't you be respectful about it and actually date her first? I would probably smack you upside the head if you just said "do you want to fool around?"

What do you have against the protocol of dating and relationships?

Please do this gal a favor and leave her the hell alone.

[Geishawhelk]

Meet, they've been friends for a long while, and done loads of stuff together... I think it's gone beyond the point of her smacking him 'upside the head'..... which is why he's asking!

 

Be nice!!

[taiko]

Why don't you be respectful about it and actually date her first? I would probably smack you upside the head if you just said "do you want to fool around?"

What do you have against the protocol of dating and relationships?

Please do this gal a favor and leave her the hell alone.

 

This assumes that there is a formality to the dating process. As opposed to the model that you just hang out and befor you know it you have hooked up with one of your extended friends network.

 

To the OP, you never ask. In most friends relationships sex would have come up. Not having each other but just the general subject. Have you engaged on that level, casually flirted with no goal in mind but having fun flirting? If you have and there is the time the two of you are alone then yes you move in to kiss her. She will instinctually recognize the advance and either move swiftly to stop you or if she is interested allow something as she resets the boundries of what the two of you can or will do.

[DanaL]

I would just simply go for it when you're both relaxed and you feel that a moment is there to kiss her. But be very respectful though if the kiss you offer isn't returned.

[tanbark813]

Don't ask her.

Take the initiative and kiss her.

 

see where that takes you.

Actions speak louder than words.

You'll get from the response, if it's a no-no....or a yes-yes......

 

Agreed.

 

If you flat out ask her she'll probably say no even if she's up for the idea.

 

If you start things off physically when you're already hanging out together then she can give the whole, "I've never done this sort of thing before. Blah blah blah..." speech and feel better about the situation.