torranceshipman Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Hi guys, So my ex broke it off 1.5yrs ago (only a 2month R, he went through a huge trauma, we broke up immediately). Very hard break up...anyway he said he was vulnerable and wanted a yr of single time, which is just about to end. Since we broke up he's initiated a lot, we're close friends but its obvious we both feel more, we've had many intimate times but that doesnt happen often as its obvious theres serious feelings there and its not the right time, he'll tell me he loves me, the chemistry is wonderful, etc etc...I've gone NC/LC sometimes to keep my feelings at bay as I can see he needs the single time, we email every day, just silly friends stuff or silly flirting or whatever... But recently, his demeanor is v.different...we recently spent a lovely evening together and he then suggested we do something that would involve us meeting up and spending regular time together. The language he uses, his manner, etc is different (in a good way), and it seems like he might want to feel out the idea of us getting back together (using the suggestion to see eachother as a way oftaking it slow, maybe?). MY question is, am I mad and reading too much into this, or should I go with the flow and just see what happens? Help!
Geishawhelk Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 ....Go with the flow.... see what happens!
blkqwn7 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Well...you are not telling us a lot about what exactly is he doing. Not enough information here girl. I don't blame you for wanting to keep private but personally I need more to be able to give a better answer. But, I say spend time with him as much as possible, but no sex until he verbally make a solid committment, do not change your schedule with your girls/friends. Don't change anything you have been doing positive since you guy's have taken your break from each other's. I would have moved on with a life without him personally. That way he can see and know how it really is without you. Sounds like he is trying to have his cake and eat it too here. Sounds like he cares a lot about you, but he is curious about what else is out there too. Be careful, but you all sound young and I personally believe both of you should be playing the field right now and get serious later on!
Author torranceshipman Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 Hey blqwyn, thanks for the advice! I haven't taken him seriously over the last yr or so, I've been dating other people the whole time (which of course makes him jealous!) and never really expected us to get back together-if we did it'd have to be serious for me! So he's seen me avoid him a lot via NC/LC (if i felt we got too close), we've turned into good friends in the meantime, he knows that I'm happy living the single life, ie not waiting for him in any way! etc....Its cause he comes back to me so often that these things happen (but I can't deny I have feelings for him still so want to be cautious!)....so yes, good advice, I will carry on living my life and let him keep making the moves and then see what happens...
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