daniam Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Hi ya all, I have a small problem. I have NEVER had any relations or dating experience with girls. I thought it was time to go into the dating game and I have no clue on what or how to do. I have been with several girls and we have great relationship up until they look for romance of any kind. That is when it breaks down. I have never even kissed a girl before. I know girls would not be interested at all with me if I told them this so after the third date the girl usually breaks it off. Always happens around the time they expect to move onto another level. I have lost a lot of possible relationships with girls because of this. It is not because I am shy. I have no problem talking to the girls. Just when it comes time to kiss or do something else like hand holding, touching, sincere hugging, etc. I exit the situation or change the topic or subject. I am at a loss and do not know what to do.
Suiyobi Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Seems like you've kind of answered your own question. If a girl is looking to move onto the next level, and so are you, then you should go for it. Just kiss the girl and no need to tell her that you've never kissed one before. And you don't need to go all French-kissing on the first time, it could just be a slight "peck" (sorry for the lack of a better word) on the lips, but it has to be on the lips though, if it's on the cheek then it gives off the "let's just be friends" kind of feel. You said you're not shy so you shouldn't have any problems going for it.
Author daniam Posted November 2, 2008 Author Posted November 2, 2008 We spent about and 1 1/2 or so together learning about eachother. When I first saw her, we gave eachother hugs. She and I was laughing and I was telling a few jokes to guage her response. She laughed at all of them, even when some bombed. When they bombed, I would say something to get her to laugh, which she did. Not a giggle, but a wide smile and laugh. It was only drinks, so I did not think it would be appropiate to ask her to do something right after. As we were walking down the street, I asked her if she'd like to actually go on a date for dinner or something, she said yes. Pretty fast too. Not that I am the guage of all answers, it did not seem she had to think it through to answer. She told me to call her in the middle of the week; which I shall. Gave her another hug, and left. She recipocated. I was thinking I probably could had gone for a kiss, but I was not too sure if it was too soon or not. So, I took the safe route. Was that a bad decision? She is a couple of years older than me, but since it was just drinks, I did not think it would be appropiate to do so.
daisy84 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Hey, you have a second date, that's great! It's fine that you didn't kiss her then, you probably could have, but it's fine that you didn't. A small kiss at the end of the second date will probably be fine if you're nervous about the prospect of doing more. The main thing is just to show your interest in having a romantic relationship, you don't have to rush it, just show it's there so she doesn't think you just want to be a platonic friend. If she already knows you, you know she likes you so there is in a way less to worry about. Good luck!
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