Toasted Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 So i got emotionally attached to my little FWB - who was crystal clear he wasn't ready for a relationship. I was honest with him and told him how I was feeling and that we should part as friends. He agreed and was nice about it. Good lord - It's so damn frustrating! Lesson Learned to Self: Toasted - just date them, don't take them home. Ya just ain't ready yet. Sorry - I guess I'm not looking for advice here - just venting on what an idiot i can be sometimes.
ioncebelieved Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 So i got emotionally attached to my little FWB - who was crystal clear he wasn't ready for a relationship. I was honest with him and told him how I was feeling and that we should part as friends. He agreed and was nice about it. Good lord - It's so damn frustrating! Lesson Learned to Self: Toasted - just date them, don't take them home. Ya just ain't ready yet. Sorry - I guess I'm not looking for advice here - just venting on what an idiot i can be sometimes. I am the perfect one to get advice from because I am just like your FWB with a woman I am currently seeing. From jump, I explained to her that I am still hurting and in pain from my ex and not ready for a relationship. From time to time, I still remind her because I feel that she still wants more. This woman is a great girl and I would never want to lead her on or hurt her. She knew from the start I was not wanting a relationship...just a friend. The benefits part just occurred because when we started we both were in need of that. You cannot be upset with your FWB! He was honest and you gave no indication he led you on. Honestly, he was fair about it and if you are struggling with your increased feelings you may have to cut the FWB out. Believe me, if he is anything like me, He does not want to hurt you. Sure he probably enjoys the benefits part and if you are okay with that fine, if not, stop seeing him in that manner. Finally, I would not be interested in a long term relationship with my friend even if I was over my ex, which I am not. Does it make bad because I would not? I do not think so. There is nothing I would not try to do for her and I think she is great. Chances are, she will not remain friends with me later on because she wants more than I do and she will somehow feel I did her wrong. But I was honest from the start as yours was. I hope you find what you are looking for as I hope I do as well. Best wishes!!
Author Toasted Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 Thanks believed. I'm not upset with him at all -he really is a great guy - he never led me on or sent mixed signals. I'm just frustrated with myself. I'm just glad i was able to at least be honest with him and not get all psycho about it. Oh well - such as life....
MizzBlue72 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 And be good to yourself Toasted. I can't imagine that he would want you to hurt -- especially if you guys shared those good times together. If you love something set it free . . .
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