stillakilla Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Over this past year, I've met the best girl of my life. She has it all, looks, brains, personality, and just a wonderful person to be around. I'm usually a shy and quiet guy but when I'm with her, I feel like I can talk to her for hours. We currently work together and see each other pretty much every day. To be quite honest, I love this girl with all my heart and would do anything for her even if that meant giving my life for her. She's a really special person and I wish I had the balls to tell her that like I am now . But, I learned that she has a boyfriend and I've tried all I could to forget her. I picked up hobbies, kept myself busy with college and work, but at the end of the night as I lay in my bed I think about her. I've had crushes on many girls in highschool but no enough to say I "love" them. The situation will sometimes bring tears to my eyes and I try to fight it, but I cant. Love is love and you can't fight your true feelings. I see women everyday pass me, but I pay no attention to them because of my love for this one girl. It doesn't help either when we text, go on break, and leave together because it just makes me love her more. How does one move on from someone they love?
Suiyobi Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Not sure how you can really "love" this girl without spending quality time with her OUTSIDE of the workplace, but if that's really how you feel then we'll go with that. To move on, however, would seem like you'll need to do at least three things. First, you have to tell her how you feel even when you know she has a boyfriend. Doing this will allow you to get a burden off your chest and she in turn will respect the fact that you've become honest with her. Secondly, start looking at her as a mere co-worker. It's easier said than done, but if it helps, you can focus on some of her negative aspects to help prevent you from making her seem like a soulmate in your eyes. Also, start paying more attention to what she does as an employee, not as a companion. And last but not least, go out and start dating other girls.
norajane Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 You need to minimize the contact you have with her at work. If she asks why, then you tell her that you've developed feelings for her and it's inappropriate because she has a boyfriend, so you need to take a step back and re-draw the boundary lines.
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