MichiganMan222 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 OK, so I'm fired up for this neighborhood Halloween party. I take my kids. We go and I'm thinking this is perfect thing to distract me from the ex. NOPE! It was HORRRRRIBLE. EVVVVERY one there was a couple. I was the only loser without a mate. And the worse part...there were mutual friends there talking about past trips we all went on...of course I was there with the ex. Best time of my life these trips....they are talking about the fond memories of it (they had no idea how it was tearing me up inside). Anyway, after about 4 beers, I start to actually feel better....start being upbeat and engaging. But still....it REALLY sucked folks. It set me backwards. Thank God for Snickers Bars and Coors Light.
CherishG Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I sorta know how u feel. This Halloween is my daughter's 1st real halloween that she can actually participate (she's 2yo) and it was just me and her. She had the cutest costume on, and every part of me was dying inside wishing her father, my ex, was here to see her wear her first costume. I had no idea where he was, he made no effort to call to ask what she would be doing tonight, so that just made the pain even hurt more. So blah...this Halloween sucked royally!
Geishawhelk Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Amaing how we still think we need to have someone next to us to make things ok. It's a habit, a dependency. Shame, that instead of focussing wholly on the fun to be had, you both inwardly seethed. The only people making you both seethe was you. Michiganman, you have a tongue in your head. How about saying something like - "yeh, memories are great aren't they....But I'm thinking of making it a great future without that woman, so you can reminisce all you like, I'm moving on and moving up! 'Nuff said - who's for another burger...." Simply because people are saying something, it doesn't mean you have to let it enter your mind, psyche whatever, and give you a downer - they were just chatting - it was you who chose to let it bring you down. If there were there good times, if there were nice moments, if there were fond memories... then it's your problem, if you chose to not view hem in that way, but instead let them be a means of making you feel worse... Why not just revel in them, and let them be good memories, huh..... Cherish, this hallowe'en didn't suck. Your daughter was wonderful, funny, pretty and doubtless received compliments from others too. She had a lovely time.... as for your ex - his loss. He's a jerk, but hey, you knew that anyway..... So who made the pain hurt even more..... That would be you..... Don't focus on the crap - turn it around and look at the positives....
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