stevie293 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Hi I was just looking for some advice really. My girlfriend recently split up with me, we have been together for just over 2 months, and everything was going great. Her ex-boyfriend, who she only split up with a few months before we got together, has found out she is dating someone else, and had started to send her txt messages saying he knows she’s with someone, and that he still has feelings for her etc. Last week she started acting distant, and that’s how I found out he had been in touch with her, and basically she said she needs time alone to sort her thoughts out. She is suffering a lot with him getting in touch because he really screwed her over. She has explained that she thought she was over him, but has realised she was just masking her feelings, and the wounds have been opened up again. At first she wasn’t sure whether we should split, and said she needed time to think, so I thought Id leave her along until she got in touch, but by the night time of that day, she was sending me messages, so that confused me. The next day I had it out with her, and we decided to split, as she said she couldn’t help the feelings she still had for him. She has already said that under no circumstances would she get back with him, that he’s a very nasty person and she just wants to get over him and move on. When we split up I was feeling very low, and couldn’t eat or sleep for days. I wanted her back. Since we split 4 days ago, we have spoken a few times on the internet, and she seems to be jealous about me going out and having fun with friends etc. She seems to still want to talk to me, and keep a certain bond. The truth is I miss her like hell! But I’m scared to open up and tell her this in fear that it pushes her away. I really don’t know how to play it, in short it seems that she is trying her best to get over him, but doesn’t want a relationship just yet, but also doesn’t want to lose me. I treated her very well when we were together, and we had some great times. I really don’t want to lose her, but I cant figure the best way to get her back? Also its her birthday next week, should I send her a card through the post? It was my birthday alst week and she got me a great card and gifts etc. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated
Author stevie293 Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 Can anyone give me advice on this?
Author stevie293 Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 Just over 2 months .. seems little time I know but those 2 months were really gr8!
Meaplus3 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Hmm.. well if she is still shows intrest in talking with you, then why not just let her know how you feel? This way you can see where she's at. AP:)
Author stevie293 Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 I have tried a few times last week to explain my feelings, but she was just saying 'i need to sort my head out', but then she's in touch everyday and we have a laugh and a joke etc .. im scared of bringing the subject up again in case its not what she wants to talk about, or if it scares her off etc. I really do miss her though, and I know that all things being equal we'd still be together and having a good time ... should I bring it up?
Meaplus3 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I have tried a few times last week to explain my feelings, but she was just saying 'i need to sort my head out', but then she's in touch everyday and we have a laugh and a joke etc .. im scared of bringing the subject up again in case its not what she wants to talk about, or if it scares her off etc. I really do miss her though, and I know that all things being equal we'd still be together and having a good time ... should I bring it up? IMO... If you really like this girl then you should bring it up. Communication is so important. Try a real relaxed approach.. not to deep sort of laid back to make her more comfortable. Good luck. AP:)
Author stevie293 Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 Thankyou, although Ive noticed that I get more of a reaction/messages when I play it cool, which is so hard to do!
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