amandaparker503 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Hi. Posted on here earlier , a few hours on i go looking on my space after reading some post on here. So i check it out and my god there is my ex boyfriend And the worst part is he was in contact with these woman while with me. I dont use myspace , i never knew he did. You can read what he said. I feel sick. He was calling other females sexy etc. The thing is i have taken the whole blame for this split, if you look back at all my contacts on here. This guy went mad at me for a friend texting me , accusing me of having an affair, like i would! and he was always jealous and now it makes sense, because he was doing things behind my back, he clearly thought that what others do. I was 100 per cent with this guy. I would never imagine from the way hew as with me, that he was doijng this behind my back. But then again , he always had his phone on his, always checking it for emails which i was told was work ones! I feel sick I let this bloke into my sons life. I loved him and my son loved him He made me feel like ****e, for messing with his head, said he loves me so much but was hurt so much by me I have been used I dont care , but i have emailed him my anger. This guy walks around town without a car in the world, he left his wife with 2 kids and pregnant with one for me, he clearly has been cheating on me, and i want him back.For 3 months i have been wanting him back. I am shaking with anger. Why. Why did he make me feel so special, he begged me for his child, broke down on me, yet he was getting his kicks else where He was so hard on me, telling me all my faults and oh i dont know arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
BikerBeagle Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I'm not sure I'd make the leap from 'moving on' to 'cheating while he was with you'.
MichiganMan222 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I don't get people like you (in all respect)....I was cheated on once...emotionally, but you know what? It hurt JUST as bad....anyway, I was trying so had to get her back....when I found out she did that? I couldn't care less if she dropped off the face of the planet.
amandaparker503 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I just want to say i only found out last night so i was shocked to bits. I dont care if he falls off the planet. Yes i emailed him my anger , that was my reaction, wrong or right. But today i ave woken up and he will not ever ever be in my life again. He did cheat on me, the pure fact valentines day he was texxting a web girl how sexy she was , after buying me a ring and vowing to love me forever ...to me that is cheating. If you are with someone , you are with them. You do not take photos of yourself and sell your self on the internet when you are in love.
MichiganMan222 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I agree. Where will that internet stuff end? Will it escalate? Who knows. But I have to say that when I found out she had been texting, confiding, emailing, calling, seeing this friend while our relationship was rocky (which doomed any chance of any reconcile), it completely changed my attitude. Do I still love her? Yeah, but I hate her too. Do I still want to hear from her? Yeah, but so I can ignore her. Do I still have a desire to contact her? NOPE! None what so ever. I instantly stopped monitoring my email and phone waiting for her to contact me. It actually gave me a boost towards healing.
blkqwn7 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Girl, I know it's hard, but you are going to have to be strong and get over this one. If what you say is true then my question to you is why in hell would you want to get back with him? He sounds like a complete creep! He left his own wife and children, why would you want a guy like that! Get over it, he is a predator he did it once and he will always do it from reading your thread. Get rid of this looser, you will feel better for being the strong one, you go back you are asking for trouble here!
Lucky555 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 hey i know how you feel, i was with a guy and never thought to thought to check up on him online because "he was with me" and all but then......... after the break up i was curious and all my suspicions were true, he had been acting different because he was communicating with other girls while with me. What i don't get is why the hell did he keep pursuing me if he was wanting other girls? I think he was playing and I had to break it off, several months ago this happened but i always had trust issues with him and this was why. trust your instincts.
sultry33 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 to move on you have to let it go when i was with my ex he left a message to a model on myspace.. she was spanish he even went to the interpretor site to write i think you are stunningly sexy xxx lol i told him right there i didnt approve.. he continued to add hot models and any pretty girl , then i found a webcam girl so i added lots of muscle hunks to my profile:p he got the message:p deep down that was a red flag now i couldnt care less infact thinking of him as a desperate cheating lying freak really helps:D good luck to his new chick she will need it:p
amandaparker503 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I am just really angry today. Really in shock. This god dam person i was only missing and going through the whole NC thing and hoping we might get back together. The thing is this has given me a whole new view, i actually find him scary. How you are lie to someone like this, play with their emotions is dam right evil. I have a child and i trusted this person so much i let him into my life and he has just shown me he must have had very little respect for both me and my son. I am sorry i know its wrong, but my anger got the better of me and i have emailed him 4 times. I told him what i felt , that he felt the need to blame me for things that were clearly his fault, that i was shocked and felt used etc etc..I know its wrong, but i am telling you all i took a whole heap of emtionally **** from this person , who drives around in his sports car , like he is 20 and acts like he hasnt a care in the world, yet has destoryed his wife and kids life and now mine and my sons. I think he deserved everything i said to him , have i heard back..LIKE HELL , more than likely gutted i found out. I am in the control now, i will now see him and think yuk! rather than there is my boyfirend who i miss so much. I cant stand him , It hurts me like hell, i have cried all day , i am letting it out and HERE IS TO THE FUTURE..I will no longer want for this creep in my life. The truth hurts , but also has allowed me to wake up and smell the bacon
sultry33 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 go with this feeling anger is good please dont send the emails it will only boost his ego instead write to him and send to yourself.. in time you will look back and be glad you didnt send them he left his wife for you and most who do that will go on to to that to the next one and so on.. the faults are with him not you so be brave and let him go you deserve better
amandaparker503 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Thanks Sultry. The thing is i sent the emails, all 4 of them! I have to say i dont care though, i feel it is about time he got to know how much he blamed me , yet i actually did nothing wrong, well ok a few things, but i did not cheat,i did not lie and i was there for him through every drama he had, the birth of his child when he had split from his wife!, the way his job went wrong and the way he was so down at one point i had to pick him up from rock bottom. When it was my turn to need him , he just walked away. I managed no contact for 5 weeks and i am proud of that, and to be honest, if he was doing this whole contacting girls when we were split, i would stay nc, but the fact is he did it when with me and he had the cheek to accuss me of texting a guy, (who was my best mate!!) and having an affair, dumping me and saying we will never recover from this! ..yet i had done nothing! i had to get my friend to call him to prove it was my friend Its such a mess, my head is in bits, it has been since our first split in Feb this year, i have spent weeks in therpay learning to love myslef again as he really bought me down. I was doing so well and this is a knock back. I hope tomorrow i am in a better frame of mind. I really do not believe in this guy anymore Thanks for listening! .. PS: I used to live in kent!
sultry33 Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 Thanks Sultry. The thing is i sent the emails, all 4 of them! I have to say i dont care though, i feel it is about time he got to know how much he blamed me , yet i actually did nothing wrong, well ok a few things, but i did not cheat,i did not lie and i was there for him through every drama he had, the birth of his child when he had split from his wife!, the way his job went wrong and the way he was so down at one point i had to pick him up from rock bottom. When it was my turn to need him , he just walked away. I managed no contact for 5 weeks and i am proud of that, and to be honest, if he was doing this whole contacting girls when we were split, i would stay nc, but the fact is he did it when with me and he had the cheek to accuss me of texting a guy, (who was my best mate!!) and having an affair, dumping me and saying we will never recover from this! ..yet i had done nothing! i had to get my friend to call him to prove it was my friend Its such a mess, my head is in bits, it has been since our first split in Feb this year, i have spent weeks in therpay learning to love myslef again as he really bought me down. I was doing so well and this is a knock back. I hope tomorrow i am in a better frame of mind. I really do not believe in this guy anymore Thanks for listening! .. PS: I used to live in kent! Hi this type of guy(ass) will always turn the blame its not a knock back just see it as some closure and start afresh start nc again and dont look back who wants a liar manipulator and a cheat when there is soooo many better guys out there small world huh;) i lived in kent.. then up north now kent again lol i like moving stay strong and you be ok, we have all gone backwards but forwards is only way to go x
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