M3mphisSaint Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 My ex is down in New Orleans for her good friends wedding, We had this trip planned for months, She's rocking out, I'm sitting here typing this on a night I should be out rocking out. Her friend planned the wedding for this weekend so everyone could see this band tonight and get crazy on Halloween in New Orleans. Not to mention the fact weddings draw people to hook up... Arrrrgghhhh
Island Girl Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Can you call a friend and get out of the house tonight? It is gonna be torture for you if you don't distract yourself some way.
amaysngrace Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 That's what I think too. Dress up and go out. Or stay in and be sad. Your choice.
Author M3mphisSaint Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 not really, friends are all married for the most part. the couple I have here are are in relationships, I'll be ok tomorrow i guess. just gotta get through the night, going with a buddy to a football game tomorrow. Just get through the night...
amaysngrace Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Wow...you sound reaallllly sad. How long has it been since you guys broke up?
Author M3mphisSaint Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 broke up in may, long story, didn't break actual contact til a couple weeks ago, it was weird, I felt fine initially, then felt a shift somewhere like she got the power somehow...
amaysngrace Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 It's only because she's doing something and you're not. She may not be having the time you think she's having right now. She may be attracting a bunch of creeps and she may be wishing she was the one getting married instead of her friend. Her singleness may be making her sad. You don't know so why bother picturing the very worst thing? You're torturing yourself unnecessarily. If you're not ready to go out that's cool but use your time wisely. Don't waste it by thinking about what she's doing. Weddings aren't always about hooking up. Sometimes they bring thoughts into your head about the people in your heart. And you can't just feel those feelings with a guy you just met that day. If anything they make relationships MORE meaningful. To a good girl anyway. Is she what you'd call a good girl?
Author M3mphisSaint Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 the jury is still out on the "good" girl part, see my post today earlier when I first started here.
Author M3mphisSaint Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 another thing is... about the going out part, i do want to go out, but it feels forced. If I do go out and talk to someone I will feel like it is forced, like I am just masking my anger. Then let's say I do hook up with someone, it will be me just using them, I hooked up about a week ago, it did nothing. I'm just mad, frustrated, whatever you want to call it(I'll look back on this post in a couple of weeks and call it pathetic probably). The point is, nothing interests me, nothing, I've lost 30 lbs. since break up but I don't know if it is because i've started running again or because of the breakup. I drink damn near every night and take pills to sleep( ala Heath Ledger). And it's NOT for the hopes of getting back, it's to get her out of my Head. It is driving me nuts. Or is it still me hanging on to something that I haven't resolved?
EmperorR Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 another thing is... about the going out part, i do want to go out, but it feels forced. If I do go out and talk to someone I will feel like it is forced, like I am just masking my anger. Then let's say I do hook up with someone, it will be me just using them, I hooked up about a week ago, it did nothing. I'm just mad, frustrated, whatever you want to call it(I'll look back on this post in a couple of weeks and call it pathetic probably). The point is, nothing interests me, nothing, I've lost 30 lbs. since break up but I don't know if it is because i've started running again or because of the breakup. I drink damn near every night and take pills to sleep( ala Heath Ledger). And it's NOT for the hopes of getting back, it's to get her out of my Head. It is driving me nuts. Or is it still me hanging on to something that I haven't resolved? same boat as you, I could have wrote this message.
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