Author Vertex Posted November 2, 2008 Author Posted November 2, 2008 I have faith in myself too -- when I get to know someone for longer than a few days in a low-pressure environment, lol. My friend is trying to set this girl and myself up, but the problem is that we both obviously know this, and so we are approaching the situation with a bit too much pressure, likely (at least, I am). I'm very extroverted with those I'm comfortable around, but it's just so hard to meet people patient enough to "wait" until that point. I mean, I've had girlfriends before and everything, but I've always met them naturally and then progressed into a relationship at some later point. I have a difficult time meeting someone for the sole purpose of evaluating chemistry (it seems like some sort of inherent inhibitor when you approach the situation under this umbrella).
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 I have faith in myself too -- when I get to know someone for longer than a few days in a low-pressure environment, lol. My friend is trying to set this girl and myself up, but the problem is that we both obviously know this, and so we are approaching the situation with a bit too much pressure, likely (at least, I am). I'm very extroverted with those I'm comfortable around, but it's just so hard to meet people patient enough to "wait" until that point. I mean, I've had girlfriends before and everything, but I've always met them naturally and then progressed into a relationship at some later point. I have a difficult time meeting someone for the sole purpose of evaluating chemistry (it seems like some sort of inherent inhibitor when you approach the situation under this umbrella). wow, I totally agree with you on that. I feel like when I was younger that situations naturally arised wherein one would get to know another person in a relaxed environment. Now it all seems so forced. So I totally get what you are saying. However, you are younger and those situations seem to be more plentiful at that stage. So I would maximize those opportunities if I were you. You are smart and thoughtful. If you can put yourself in situations where you can really get to know someone I bet you will do so well. If you feel that you need to meet people through other channels, then so be it. All you can do is be yourself. Try not to think to hard about anything. The right person will see how fantastic you are, just by being you. You may have to meet a lot of frogs, but your match will be there someday.
Author Vertex Posted November 2, 2008 Author Posted November 2, 2008 I do really well when people get to know me, but my issue is getting to that point due to shyness and, really, not being in the right situations I suppose. In class, it's hard to talk to people, and it's hard to talk to other people in college who've already established their niche of friends. Activities have already begun their courses, and so sometimes it just feels really limited.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 I do really well when people get to know me, but my issue is getting to that point due to shyness and, really, not being in the right situations I suppose. In class, it's hard to talk to people, and it's hard to talk to other people in college who've already established their niche of friends. Activities have already begun their courses, and so sometimes it just feels really limited. People may have already found their niches, but cool people are always open to meeting new folks. It's a hard line to walk, but if you can somehow project a persona of confidence yet openness, and show your true interesting self in there somewhere, you will break those ties. Cool people are always into meeting other cool people. And by cool people, I don't mean people who dress a certain way, or come from a certain background. Cool people just are- cool. Fun, interesting, engaging. If you feel you are really shy, then show interest in other people. People like people who are interested in them. This is hard to explain over the internet. I hope I am somehow getting through. I guess my point is to not limit yourself. Saying things like, well , people already have their niches, I can't get through, that limits you. Have some faith that you are awesome enough to break through those boundaries.
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