Vertex Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I'll let you guys know how it goes *gulp* Nervous! I'll probably go grab a beer real fast.
jerbear Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Good luck! There are many wierdos out there right now! All those Phanatics running around!
Nemo Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 It's Saturday. He'll probably be in bed having sex all day. Maybe tomorrow he might come up for air.
Author Vertex Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 Nope, no sex or anything. As expected, I was pretty shy and awkward. But then again, she was pretty shy too. Too hard to say for sure how things went, honestly.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Why are you unsure of how things went?
Shygirl15 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 V, you need to find a strategy to overcome this, for sure.
Nemo Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 *gulp* Nervous! Does it also follow that nervous girls swallow? Sounds like a good first date. You're just feeling each other out. Not literally, of course.
carhill Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Nope, no sex or anything. As expected, I was pretty shy and awkward. But then again, she was pretty shy too. Too hard to say for sure how things went, honestly. So, any talk of a future date?
Shygirl15 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Sounds like a good first date. Where did you get that impression?
Nemo Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Where did you get that impression? They're both nervous, which is possibly something you have experience with. Unless one of your special skills is sarcasm. Bonding takes time. And I'm sure it was a good experience for them both. At the very least, they both got a little more "exposure" to the opposite sex. Hopefully, Vertex will push for a second date, if he hasn't already.
joshaz Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 ...At the very least, they both got a little more "exposure" to the opposite sex. Actually men are born with such exposure
Author Vertex Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 I mean the conversations we had were very innocent, and we were both really shy. It was difficult because in terms of interest, it's hard to say if we were interested or NOT interested in one another. That's the thing about shyness. It's really hard to read reactions and feelings. Regardless, it was a fun night. I'm hoping that as we talk in the future we'll start to open up a bit more.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I would ask her out again. The shyness will dissipate as you get to know one another. It takes time. If you still feel shy and awkward after several dates, then maybe she isn't the one for you. Give it time!
Dark-N-Romantic Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Well I pray the date turned out as planned and went well. DNR
Nemo Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Regardless, it was a fun night. Good to hear. I'm hoping that as we talk in the future we'll start to open up a bit more. Slowly is actually a great way to get to a worthy destination.
Author Vertex Posted November 2, 2008 Author Posted November 2, 2008 Well apparently I was too shy. She's not interested. :/ Thinks I was a bit too quiet. I absolutely hate this. I just can't get rid of it. It's plagued me my whole life.
likestolaugh Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Well apparently I was too shy. She's not interested. :/ Thinks I was a bit too quiet. I absolutely hate this. I just can't get rid of it. It's plagued me my whole life. maybe you just need to talk to more people generally?
joshaz Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Well apparently I was too shy. She's not interested. :/ Thinks I was a bit too quiet. I absolutely hate this. I just can't get rid of it. It's plagued me my whole life. Bummer. I find whiskey helps.
likestolaugh Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 I'm the very definition of shy... but doing more social things over the years has definitely helped. 3 years ago, I would have crumbled with shyness on a date. Now? I can talk, at least. The rest is another matter, lol... and NEVER ... NEVER drink before a date... (since I remember what you'd mentioned before) that's one of the worst things you can do to yourself.
Author Vertex Posted November 2, 2008 Author Posted November 2, 2008 I do social things all the time. When I get to know someone/a friend, I become quite extroverted. That initial hump though is just so incredibly hard for me.
Shygirl15 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Well apparently I was too shy. She's not interested. :/ Thinks I was a bit too quiet. I absolutely hate this. I just can't get rid of it. It's plagued me my whole life. Nemo, this is what I was getting at. I was not being sarcastic at all. As a person who's extremely too shy in real life,the last thing I want to do is getting involved with another shy person. Doesn't work. And I could imagine her position even when Vertex wrote very few words about his date.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Well apparently I was too shy. She's not interested. :/ Thinks I was a bit too quiet. I absolutely hate this. I just can't get rid of it. It's plagued me my whole life. You are who you are. There are ways to move beyond shyness. But please. do not label yourself. You are young and there is so much learning and living to do. Don't let this be a setback. The right person will be patient and get to know you. i bet that when you are comfortable with the person that you are not quiet. You can talk easily and freely. Don't let one date define who you are in the dating world. I have faith in you!
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