shockabsorber Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Sorry...this is a long post, but I wanted you guys to know the details so that you could see why I call this a roller coaster ride! I have been friends with this girl for 2 years now and we really enjoy each other's company. She said she initially liked me, but when she found out I had a gf, she decided to be just friends. I was attracted to her as well, but we never told each other anything and we remained friends. Nothing happened between us for a year since we were both clueless about each other's feelings but one evening we got too comfortable at her house and ended up kissing. This went on for three days until we decided it was not a good idea and went back to being friends. I remained with my gf and she would date other guys and tell me about it. I almost felt like one of her girl friends which was a little unpleasant! A few months later, we were at her place and she very unexpectedly told me that she wanted to have sex with me and I obliged since I really wanted to have sex with her as well. After that, we went back to being just friends. A few more months later, we got physical again and very passionate but in the middle of it, she stops me and says that we would have to wait till I broke up with my gf. Fast forward three months and my gf and I had been having a lot of problems and we actually did break up. I told my friend about it and we continued our friendship while she would tell me about her boy problems. One day I asked her if was interested in dating me now that I was single and she said no since she felt that I was too intense and overbearing for her and she didnt think she could deal with it. Once in a while she would still kiss me and do everything short of having sex with me but it was always on her terms. If I ever tried to get physical with her, she was very quick to stop me. She has a quick temper and almost no patience for me when I mess up. I think she suffers from anxiety or depression and I even suggested that she should go see a doctor about it although she refuses to admit that she has any problems. But strangely, her problems seem to attract me even more! A few weeks ago my ex gf and I decided to work things out and get back together. When my friend found out about it, she got mad at me and seemed jealous! She told me she didnt know why I would do that and that she couldnt believe I went back to my ex. This really threw me off since when I came out and told her that I liked her, she flat out rejected me, she gives me all these mixed signals and I think she messes with my head. Unfortunately for me, I am still attracted to my friend and we did have a lot of good times together. I feel like there is a lot of chemistry between us. My gf likes me a lot and we have tons of similar interests and we understand each other much more. But for some reason I am torn between the two. Any advice/suggestions/thoughts you may have would be greatly appreciated since I have been struggling with this for quite a while now.
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