D-Lish Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I don't think it's being unreasonable- not after having met more than one dangerous/creepy guy from online dating. I think it's being cautious! That is a learned behaviour! I talked to a guy from POF for a few weeks and he added me to facebook. From facebook he got my first and last name, where I worked (from a tiny picture of me standing uner my store awning), was able to look me up on Canada 411 and started calling me unsolicited. He then showed up at my work- then my house. He stalked me... waited for me to come home one night and cornered me in the driveway at my apartment building. Don't take it personally!!! She has probably had a few bad experiences and is looking out for herself. The story above is one of a couple that really made me buckle down on a more rigid screening process. I do have an alternative msn I use for online dating only. I always insist on seeing them on webcam first as well. I am not a phone talker either. Believe me... I have had some scary times... even had to call the police and take out a restraining order on that one dude.... Had another guy that was a cop that used to sit in front of my building in his cruiser when he was working.... See what I am getting at? Don't take it personally- she's obviously been spooked. So she IS being smart- not necessarily deceptive. Just my perspective- as a woman who has been spooked from online experiences.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 And why do we date online....??????? Arghhhh...........
Dark-N-Romantic Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 And why do we date online....??????? Arghhhh........... Because no one of interest nearby comes to mind or workout. Because we want to broaden our horizen. Because we met someone interesting who live a long distance and email and IM is WAY more cheaper than talking to them on the phone. To avoid a disterous first impression. Unless we lied about who we are and then that first impression is destroyed by our lie. DNR
D-Lish Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 And why do we date online....??????? Arghhhh........... mmm, honestly CB- I have met creeps everywhere... not just online. Going online is just another avenue for creepy people too. Think about LS... There are a range of differing personalities here as well. I've met some perfectly normal people online... but I have also met some doozies. That's not different from everyday life, it's just that the pot you are stirring is bigger. there is more opportunity to meet people outside your radar- but as in everyday life, you still have to be careful.
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