Bells Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 At what point in a marraige, will you feel comfortable enough with each other to break wind? I had a male friend said that he NEVER did that in his marriage. I thought most dudes eventually farted in the presence of their mate eventually. I was going to ask that at what point in a marriage where you can start "letting it rip" or what not and think it's cute or funny. Some responses from women I got were astonishing. As if you almost cheated on her or something. They found it quite disgusting to the point where they'd seriously leave the guy. Some have said it's like crapping your pants, but without the crap. LOL. Apparently it can be a catalyst that can lead to a break up or divorce even. Was quite shocked to hear that a mere body function can lead to a marriage break up. This includes using the bathroom and not closing the door either. Apparently it can be a relationship or marriage killer, and relationship experts claim a "little mystery" in a LIFE LONG marriage....makes it last. Some prefer not to see see or be around their mates doing "their thing"....TMI even applies in Marriage as well. But, I've known couples who were comfortable enough to do that kind of thing around each other...now to ME, that's a healthy marraige.
Touche Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Let's just say that sometimes I wish my marriage wasn't so "healthy.":rolleyes:
Trimmer Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 About 6 months after we started going out, we were laying in bed one morning and I accidentally let one go, which turned out to be louder and more percussive than I expected. As I lay there hoping she was still asleep, I heard her giggle, and so couldn't help but start laughing myself. 18 years (13 of them married) and two children later, we split up, but I'm not ready to blame it on that fart...
Nemo Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 and I accidentally let one go, There's the problem, right there. It's difficult to harbour any respect for a person who has lost control of their anal sphincter. Yes, if your partner has a recalcitrant butthole, it's time to expect the best, but prepare for the worst. The bladder could well be the next to go.
bobdole Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Me and my gf fart all the time... Its a bodily function, you can't NOT do it. If you had to I guess you could hold it, run out of the room and fart. But thats just silly. We're about as relaxed as you can get. Even take dumps infront of the other (no we don't have to have each other to go to the bathroom, just for example if one of us is in the tub and the others gotta go they'll go).
carhill Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Even take dumps infront of the other (no we don't have to have each other to go to the bathroom, just for example if one of us is in the tub and the others gotta go they'll go). Now there's a way to punctuate an otherwise memorable bubble bath experience OP, I can't say that farting is on my personal list of deal-breakers, and it's a good thing it's not, but I do admire someone with the decorum to consider the sensibilities of those around them. You know, kind of like men being expected to put the toilet seat down Truthfully, there is nothing I find sexy about a woman farting (same thing for a man). Especially in your face farts with no "excuse me".
theobserver Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 This thread is funny, erm I guess I can say we're both not so damn uptight that we'd divorce or something. It depends where and when, and will it be funny. Example laying on a couch SHE may get up and make an excuse to go somewhere I may just do it there and then for comedic effect we'd both giggle especially if it's loud who wouldn't? walking about doing stuff but in the same area I couldn't give a damn if you need to go go. Just obviously nothing foul like in my face as a "joke" laying a deadly one when you knew it would be (my friends do this). However we always say excuse me or it is implied. In bed.. again who cares Im not going to get up and walk out the room anytime I need to go if it's just me and my partner. some people need to get with it really, I understand some people like to keep up that "perfect dating" period going with no exception especially women but please. Of course a woman farting isn't sexy lol but MEH long as it's not an occurrence bringing back up "poop" I imagine to an average man any attractive woman taking a steamy dump for example doesn't exactly make one want to spank the monkey does it? But we know you all do. "can't let him see me without make-up, without my hair done, damn let him smell my morning breath" PPLLLLLEEEEEASE aslong as you're not with someone that's making it their mission to be rude and inappropriate all the time and only occassionally I don't see the issue. I'm not going to be offended if my partner has to pass wind (unless there's guests lol) and it's just us and vice versa , and I also realise women poop too (just throwing that out there) If there are people who would divorce over this then there's more irritants happening in the marriage then gas that or someone's worried it will effect the botox in their face
Nemo Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Even take dumps infront of the other Just another reason to have more than one toilet in the house. Either that, or double-bag it.
bobdole Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 It doesn't bother us. We've been together for over a year, we both realize its a neccessary bodily function, its not a big deal. Its not like we have a poop fetish or anything.
norajane Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 It's about respect. If neither partner cares, no problem. If one partner has differing sensibilities and has made them clear, and the other partner doesn't make any effort to respect those sensibilities and requests, then yes, that lack of respect over time and repeated insult can lead to divorce.
Geishawhelk Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 My partner breaks wind infront of me, and always warns me, and apologises - but for us, it's a laughing matter. However, he's more fastidious than I about 'lavatorial' issues, and can be very 'shy' about things like that. He won't use the toilet if I'm in the bathroom, and thinks it's disrespectful, even to pee, if I'm in there..... Any discussion about anal/genital issues is done discreetly. He just thinks there's a level of sensitivity and politeness that should be respected....
carhill Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 For me, the determining experience was having to wipe my mother's ass for a goodly amount of time. I was embarrassed for her lack of privacy but she lost the ability to know how. So, perhaps, I think of elimination (and farting, for that matter) as a private function, not something one shares with friends, spouses and family. YMMV, of course
Art_Critic Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Body functions that lead to divorce? Hummm.... I guess sex with another would do it Taking a dump in front of someone is really kinda crass.. they make doors for that... Toilet humor is great though... Nothing funnier than asking my wife to pull my finger
jj33 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 How interesting. what do you do if someone is ill has a stomach virus etc etc how can you keep a relationship or marriage that polite or sanitary over a long period of time? What if someone has a digestive problem that leads to flatulence. Is that a sign of disrepect? Seems to me its just one part (the less appealing parts but a part just the same) of being intimate with someone. You live with this person and things happen...
Lizzie60 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I don't think I've ever farted in the presence of anyone... I would find it very disrespectful if my partner would fart in my presence.. I think farts are just as bad as loud burps... gross and ignorant..
carhill Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 What if someone has a digestive problem that leads to flatulence. Is that a sign of disrepect? IMO, it's situational. I will provide examples from my own experience. Example: My father had cancer. He could no longer control his bowel movements. My mom changed his bedpan and cleaned him. This went on for a couple years. Example 2: My wife brought home Norwalk virus from a trip and gave it to me. I hugged trash can and toilet at the same time. She never knew. I could take care of myself. BTW, I was caring for my mom at the same time and had to sanitize myself and surfaces she might interact with so as not to contaminate her. She didn't get sick. Example 3: My wife is lactose intolerant. She's aware of this. There are assistive medications which mitigate this and lessen/eliminate intestinal distress and flatulence. They reside within our home. She chooses not (or forgets) to take such medications. She explains away the results as being lactose intolerant. No "excuse me". That's where my perspective comes from
annieo Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 My h and I have no issues with this. People fart, it's a fact of life. Since we are pretty uninhibited in all ways with each other, I am willing to take the good with the smelly. Plus, it can be kind of painful to hold them in. We will try to remove ourselves from the room if possible, but if not, well, no biggie. It has become somewhat of a joke. Like, we'll let one go and blame the cat. Or one of the kids. Then we all giggle about it. I don't see what the big deal is about.
carhill Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Acidophilus reduces intestinal flatulence and belching for the chemical factory who is my wife. In keeping with the prior posting about the situation becoming a joke, I now say, when my wife passes gas or belches without saying "excuse me", "Acidophilus" and smile So, in a funny way, I remind her of her manners and choices. She then will say "excuse me". IMO, it's how one acts when others aren't looking that determines who they really are. I catch myself saying "excuse me" when farting even when no one is around
Nemo Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 People fart, it's a fact of life. No way!!?? I guess that's what that periodic stench is. Thanks for clearing up what seemed like a perpetual mystery.
Geishawhelk Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Breaking wind is a sign of an imbalanced gut. Fermentation is taking place, which means the diet has too much of one thing and not enough of another. A good friend of my Mother's in Italy is a qualified professional Ayurvedic medic, and has one of the most balanced diets I know. She even swallows two whole raw garlic cloves a day and I swear to you as I live and breathe she doesn't ever smell. Flatulence is only something that happens to other people, with her. No flatulence, no burping, no garlic smell. She's a miserable cow, too......
annieo Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 No way!!?? I guess that's what that periodic stench is. Thanks for clearing up what seemed like a perpetual mystery. I am SO happy to solve the mystery. Really, I'm thrilled to have enlightened you! Another little tidbit of wisdom - sarcasm is the lowest form of humour.
You'reasian Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 At what point in a marraige, will you feel comfortable enough with each other to break wind? I had a male friend said that he NEVER did that in his marriage. I thought most dudes eventually farted in the presence of their mate eventually. I was going to ask that at what point in a marriage where you can start "letting it rip" or what not and think it's cute or funny. Some responses from women I got were astonishing. As if you almost cheated on her or something. They found it quite disgusting to the point where they'd seriously leave the guy. Some have said it's like crapping your pants, but without the crap. LOL. Apparently it can be a catalyst that can lead to a break up or divorce even. Was quite shocked to hear that a mere body function can lead to a marriage break up. This includes using the bathroom and not closing the door either. Apparently it can be a relationship or marriage killer, and relationship experts claim a "little mystery" in a LIFE LONG marriage....makes it last. Some prefer not to see see or be around their mates doing "their thing"....TMI even applies in Marriage as well. But, I've known couples who were comfortable enough to do that kind of thing around each other...now to ME, that's a healthy marraige. I can't see a normal body function that would lead to divorce?
Geishawhelk Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 ...Another little tidbit of wisdom - sarcasm is the lowest form of humour. "Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit, but the highest form of intelligence." Allegedly.
D-Lish Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 At what point in a marraige, will you feel comfortable enough with each other to break wind? A marriage? Probably 15 minutes into the first date.
D-Lish Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Seriously- I really don't care if a guy farts in front of me. I am happy if he feels comfortable enough to do so. Geez, I have been seeing someone for a few weeks and the second time we met he asked me for a magazine and disappeared into my bathroom for 20 minutes. He now farts freely.... 3 weeks... I don't care. Me? I left his place the other night and drove home at midnight because I had a sore tummy from holding it in. An hour drive! I was afraid I'd fall asleep and let one go.
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