Lonelystar Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Well, I know I shouldn't have done it but I did. I didn't mean to look him up, but I did a friend finder thing on myspace and there was his profile. I know I shouldn't have clicked on it and I did. When I saw that a girl had left a message for him it made my insides turn. He never had a myspace before, but now suddenly has one. I know I have to let it go, and should have never looked him up. Gaah... I feel like an idiot, and what is worst is that I feel horrible inside. His life is going fine without me, and I just have to accept that. Why is it so hard to just let him go?
Dmoney28 Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 yeah...dont ever look at your ex's myspace...ever. Thats like looking down the barrel of a loaded gun. Because 90% of the time, they know you are looking at it. And they post pic's and accept people and post's...just to piss you off. The reason my dear...is your heart. You still have feelings and emotions. Im not trying to come off as a bible thumper...but it does say the heart is a treacherous thing. It will move you to do all sorts of crazy things...if you do not use proper judgement
alwayssme Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Well, I know I shouldn't have done it but I did. I didn't mean to look him up, but I did a friend finder thing on myspace and there was his profile. I know I shouldn't have clicked on it and I did. When I saw that a girl had left a message for him it made my insides turn. He never had a myspace before, but now suddenly has one. I know I have to let it go, and should have never looked him up. Gaah... I feel like an idiot, and what is worst is that I feel horrible inside. His life is going fine without me, and I just have to accept that. Why is it so hard to just let him go? Lol, I don't look at his page because I can't but i understand the urge to do so. Their lives are fine without us and ours will someday be fine without them too! We care about them and love them, that's why it's hard to let them go. I pray to God that everything turns out good and that this pain becomes a memory that i never have to go through again!
BCCA Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Look at it this way: you learned your lesson the hard way. I'm sure the next time you get the urge, youll remember how terrible youre feeling right now, and resist it. And the other post about people doing that on purpose is right on. I've had people tell me as much...they add a bunch of random people from the opposite sex, take pictures of themselves with anyone...ive even had someone tell me that they changed their status to 'in a relationship' just to get their ex's goat. It just leaves you with more questions than answers.
northstar1 Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Look at it this way: you learned your lesson the hard way. I'm sure the next time you get the urge, youll remember how terrible youre feeling right now, and resist it. And the other post about people doing that on purpose is right on. I've had people tell me as much...they add a bunch of random people from the opposite sex, take pictures of themselves with anyone...ive even had someone tell me that they changed their status to 'in a relationship' just to get their ex's goat. It just leaves you with more questions than answers. True, and as has been said, no one puts up pictures of themselves looking bored, or unhappy. Everyone pimps up their pages with pictures of themselves partying or having fun. So it is easy to think that they are 100% happy all the time. And yeah, I'm sure some do it just to make sure their ex's notice what they are up to. Then again, I find it bizzare that some people have over 600 friends, many of whom I'm sure they barely even know.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Well, I know I shouldn't have done it but I did. I didn't mean to look him up, but I did a friend finder thing on myspace and there was his profile. I know I shouldn't have clicked on it and I did. When I saw that a girl had left a message for him it made my insides turn. He never had a myspace before, but now suddenly has one. I know I have to let it go, and should have never looked him up. Gaah... I feel like an idiot, and what is worst is that I feel horrible inside. His life is going fine without me, and I just have to accept that. Why is it so hard to just let him go? Go easy on yourself! It happens! I had to delete him from my AIM, Yahoo Messenger AND Facebook! It was excruciating seeing how he's moved on so easily and here I am, like, WTF happened?! I understand how you're feeling though; it's so hard! It's like, you don't want to, but in an effort to feel closer to the person, you look, and then you feel like crap, and it's this vicious cycle! So when they say NC, it REALLY means on AND offline!!!!! Stay strong!!!
northstar1 Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Go easy on yourself! It happens! I had to delete him from my AIM, Yahoo Messenger AND Facebook! It was excruciating seeing how he's moved on so easily and here I am, like, WTF happened?! I understand how you're feeling though; it's so hard! It's like, you don't want to, but in an effort to feel closer to the person, you look, and then you feel like crap, and it's this vicious cycle! So when they say NC, it REALLY means on AND offline!!!!! Stay strong!!! This is dead on. Nothing ever good comes from cyber watching an ex. Nothing. What possibly could? They aren't going to post how they miss you, or put up pictures of you. It's going to be all exciting stuff without you, or worse, with new people. Block them off myspace and all that, or at least stop checking on them.
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