chicagoboy777 Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 My and my ex-girlfriend dated for about 10 months in college. We broke up because we both needed some space, her more than me. She says that she has never had so much fun in a relationship before me. She also recently joined a sorority at college with many guys hitting on her. I told her we were not going to talk from this point on, but for some reason I always came back trying to talk to her. She finally dropped the last bomb on me and said that she may still have feelings for her first boyfriend now, and since we were broken up it was ok to say that. After that I walked to her to her place, and said "if you are really in any emergency in life give me a call I will be there, but other than that I never want to talk to you...I have moved on." Not sure whether to call her just to hang out. It hurts so much to know many guys hit on her when I am with her, and we argue a lot but we do miss each other. It is just everytime I am with her and try to get close to her as a friend and sometimes a little more she pushes me away saying she doesnt like me anymore. Should I just give and go party this weekend or should I try to be friends and ultimatley get back with her? She wanted the break because she needed space. Also she is really really really really pretty! Like a 9.6 out of 10.
DanaL Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 I really think you should move on if you can't be just friends with her. She has made it clear that that's all she wants and I think you have to respect that. I'm a firm believer that just because you were once in a relationship with someone it does not mean that you have to find a way to be friends after wards. Sometimes you just have to move on.
dxb Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Mate - run a mile. You're getting played. We broke up because we both needed some space, her more than me.So in other words, she ditched you. someone who is 'having the most fun in a relationship' wouldn't do that. 'Space' is a mythical thing that people suddenly need when they decide they don't want to be in a relationship anymore. It's a euphemism for "I want to have sex with other people". And you want to be friends with this woman? It hurts so much to know many guys hit on her when I am with her, and we argue a lot but we do miss each other. It is just everytime I am with her and try to get close to her as a friend and sometimes a little more she pushes me away saying she doesnt like me anymore.It doesn't sound like she misses you. In the nicest possible way....would someone who misses you deliberately put herself in a situation to meet lots of other guys and then push you away? I totally understand that it hurts to know guys are coming on to her. Here's worse. They're probably doing more than just that. But if you can't even cope with them flirting... YOU CANNOT BE PLATONIC FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE IF YOU GET HOSTILE WHEN OTHER PEOPLE FLIRT WITH THEM. Should I just give and go party this weekend or should I try to be friends and ultimatley get back with her? She wanted the break because she needed space. Go party. Go get the space YOU said you needed in the first place.
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