Meaplus3 Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Ok. So date 1 with this guy went pretty well and date 2 even better. He had me over to his place and cooked a most wonderful meal he's a good cook. I am picking up signals that he would like to get closer to me but I'm the take it slow type. So, I'm wondering what is going through his head and what to expect next like a kiss or hug?? I'm so out of practice with this that I feel ridiculous. AP:)
Shygirl15 Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Ok. So date 1 with this guy went pretty well and date 2 even better. He had me over to his place and cooked a most wonderful meal he's a good cook. I am picking up signals that he would like to get closer to me but I'm the take it slow type. So, I'm wondering what is going through his head and what to expect next like a kiss or hug?? I'm so out of practice with this that I feel ridiculous. AP:) lol.. Wait, so he had you in his place and... nothing happened? Not even a kiss? Or a hug?. I think he's much slower than you
Shygirl15 Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 On a serious note though, I think he's a very respectful individual so maybe he's waiting for you to initiate something. I think you can hold his hand, and kiss him lightly on the lips on your next date.
Art_Critic Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 I think you should have offered him desert.. Homemade dinner in one's home is pretty intimate... sounds to me like date three should heat up some...
Author Meaplus3 Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 On a serious note though, I think he's a very respectful individual so maybe he's waiting for you to initiate something. I think you can hold his hand, and kiss him lightly on the lips on your next date. Yes.. he does seem very respectful and has a ton of class so this is a good thing. I guess I sort of feel like ok.. what should happen next? Oh..I don't know. AP:)
Author Meaplus3 Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 I think you should have offered him desert.. Homemade dinner in one's home is pretty intimate... sounds to me like date three should heat up some... LOL.. Yeah.. it was intimate alright. Although, I did spill the glass of wine he served me and I don't even drink, lol so then I had to explain that and he just laughed at me and was ok with it. AP:)
Shygirl15 Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 LOL.. Yeah.. it was intimate alright. Although, I did spill the glass of wine he served me and I don't even drink, lol so then I had to explain that and he just laughed at me and was ok with it. AP:) Mmh, the last time I had dinner at somebody's house, a lot happened .. Just make a simple physical gesture next time, I'm pretty sure he'll respond nicely to it.
Author Meaplus3 Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 Mmh, the last time I had dinner at somebody's house, a lot happened .. Just make a simple physical gesture next time, I'm pretty sure he'll respond nicely to it. Hmmm. sounds like you had a good time. Well, I think I'm going to let him make the first move and then respond accordingly. I have a feeling he may have sensed the fact that I was nervous. AP:)
sultry33 Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Hmmm. sounds like you had a good time. Well, I think I'm going to let him make the first move and then respond accordingly. I have a feeling he may have sensed the fact that I was nervous. AP:) :laugh:My second date was like this 2 movies plus dinner.. i love a guy that can cook..kinda sexy we started of kissing lightly as i was really shy but boom.. passion set in;) i was still nervous but what a night.. got home 6am 3rd date was still good and he was still the perfect gent.. Just be prepared and take things how they feel right for you.. there is no wrong time or expected time;) cant say yet if this will be serious as im not ready for that step but its all good:laugh:
sid3 Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 yeah I agree, move at the speed your comfortable with. Your date does sound like a slow mover, the next time you find yourself feeling really nervous just remember that he seems to be as well. Some guys don't mind waiting a few dates before a first kiss and may actually prefer it. Whether we like it or not, typically it is the man's role to kiss the girl... because of that fact, I can gaurantee that he is thinking about it every bit as much as you and probably more because it sounds as though he is definitely into you.
daniam Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 F-Y-I as a guy who really can't read women too well, why can't women initiate the first kiss? It is usually down hill from there, so I heard. I am sure most guys are just as nervious women are.
Vertex Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 If a girl kisses me, it's so much easier to escalate from there.
Author Meaplus3 Posted November 3, 2008 Author Posted November 3, 2008 yeah I agree, move at the speed your comfortable with. Your date does sound like a slow mover, the next time you find yourself feeling really nervous just remember that he seems to be as well. Some guys don't mind waiting a few dates before a first kiss and may actually prefer it. Whether we like it or not, typically it is the man's role to kiss the girl... because of that fact, I can gaurantee that he is thinking about it every bit as much as you and probably more because it sounds as though he is definitely into you. Thanks Sid. I do think he's a slow mover and I'm not used to that I guess. All the other guys I have dated in the past and when I say past I mean way past, lol have always tried something by the second date. So, this is sort of odd for me but nice at the same time because I think with age I have become a slow mover myself. I'd rather take my time and not give the goods away too quick. He's also just a touch younger than me. AP:)
PrincessPeach Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 If I were you I'd try to kiss him on your next date. You don't have to give away anything beyond that, but I'll bet you he's nervous about kissing you too. If you lay one on him I'm sure he will feel a big relief. Guys like a girl being a little bit forward, just don't be too forward. Kissing him on your next date is a good enough speed to not seem too much so. Some guys have trouble with the first move so you can help him out. If he has invited you to his place and cooked you dinner and is going out with you a third time, he is definitely interested.
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