V.Vixen Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 A guy I dated back in July called me out of the blue last week. We talked for a while, he asked me why I didn't ask him out on a second date (in a joking way), and said he suggests I do. We talked for a while and laughed. Well, since then he has barely responded to me and then said (in a joking way) "I just liked leading you on". But, I don't think he was really joking. I don't get it.. why bother calling me and leading me on? It makes no sense. Anyway, I lost all interest in going out with him at this point anyway. I just wonder why he felt the need to do that.
amaysngrace Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 That guy is a complete jerk. I don't know why he did that. It makes no sense to me.
Author V.Vixen Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 It was really crappy, right? It also came at a time when I could use the self esteem boost of him contacting me, then to be treated like that was a real bummer. We had a great date back then, but he IS very self absorbed, so it is what it is....
Author V.Vixen Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 UGH! I don't think I come of as the type to be "played". Men suck. .. no offense to the men here, but they really do, in a general sense.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 A guy I dated back in July called me out of the blue last week. We talked for a while, he asked me why I didn't ask him out on a second date (in a joking way), and said he suggests I do. We talked for a while and laughed. Well, since then he has barely responded to me and then said (in a joking way) "I just liked leading you on". But, I don't think he was really joking. I don't get it.. why bother calling me and leading me on? It makes no sense. Anyway, I lost all interest in going out with him at this point anyway. I just wonder why he felt the need to do that. Not only is this guy a JERK, but he's insecure and immature! What is the point of toying with you like that, and then admitting he "liked leading you on"! He's doing it for an ego boost and he finds this amusing or cool? Ignore him - don't pick up his calls, never call him, and delete his number! Silence will send the strongest message! With him, I'm thinking, one word, two syllables: LOSER!!!!!
Zorie Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Yeah he's a LOSER and most likely only did that to boost his own ego! I know all men aren't that horrible but most of the ones I've come in contact lately have been real selfish bastards!!! Don't waste any more energy on that one find one that will worship you!
Green Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 UGH! I don't think I come of as the type to be "played". Men suck. .. no offense to the men here, but they really do, in a general sense. why is it that every time some one says no offense... I'm offended? oh yeah its because something offensive is usualy said right after
Author V.Vixen Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 why is it that every time some one says no offense... I'm offended? oh yeah its because something offensive is usualy said right after It is so true. I mostly say this tongue in cheek. I just don't get it. I didn't think he was an ******* until recently.
Isolde Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Maybe Im in the minority here but it sounds like he must like you in some way. Guys dont usually waste their time playing pranks on someone they dont find attractive. Im not saying he wants to date you for real (who knows?) but I definitely wouldnt interpret this as rejection.
AMB3R Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 I think that he just needed to boost his self esteem! Very sad for him!
BubblyPopcorn Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 He wanted you to ask him out so that he could reject you, he purposely lured you to it in fact. Sorry Isolde, that is not how you demonstrate to someone that you like them. OP, this “unintentional” behavior will leave you in a labyrinth of confusion because there’s no arguing with him. I guestimate he's someone with an extremely ridgid thought process. Someone who believes he’s perfectly sane and that it’s everyone else who isn’t. Well I guess that makes you crazy then, but whatever you do, don't jump off a bridge cause he'll just find it funny.
Isolde Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 I re-read the original post more carefully. It sounds like he's a bit messed up honestly. I still maintain that he wouldn't have re-initiated contact if he didn't find you appealing in some perverse way, but of course that's not necessarily a good thing
amaysngrace Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Maybe he wanted to see if you were seeing somebody else by now? I have to agree that he's at least a little bit interested but not enough to be your bf. But wants to know you still have time for him maybe? creepy.
Green Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 maybe he was single and horny so He called a bunch of numbers he still had including yours to gauge interest and more then one of the people he called showed interest and he only had the time and money to focus on one girl and you were the one or one of the ones that got cut...
sultry33 Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 im just curious as to why if you liked him initially there was no date 2? some guys fear rejection too so maybe his joking was just a cover up to you how you play it but if you like him go for it..if its a set up then at least you know to hit delete;)
You'reasian Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 send the strongest message! With him, I'm thinking, one word, two syllables: LOSER!!!!! or perhaps three syllables... loo-hoo-ser
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