Maccaro Netto Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Well, Im 26 and my girlfriend is 17... we have been together now for at least 1 years and a half, but only about 11 months of actual committed relationship, or as americans called it "going steady", problems and madness are plenty: 1 - When we met, we were both in the middle of long term relationship, she was steady with this older guy for 3 years and I was in this relationshio with lots of on and offs that last almost 6 years... 2- first mistake, we started talking, and talking, and talking... on the internet - the MSN messenger - every day, sometiems for 6 hours or more in a row, while we were still dating our respectives girl/boyfriends. 3- Second mistake, we felt that our connection was so ridicuosly strong and perfect that we ended up dating even before we stopped seeing each other´s partners. 4 - 1 tradegy, we went and broke up with to be together, her boyfriend, went complety nuts and kept calling her crying his eyes out several times a week, sometimes a day, for 5 months!! and my girlfriend found out a lil later and it was hell break loose, she vented, cursed, screamend and I never heard from her again... 5 - 2 tragedy, while all that was happening, in the middle of the torment, I had a unexpected date with my ex and didnt explain it well, nothing happened, we were just looking for closure, but my current girlfriend got mad and fooled around a lil bit with my best friend... ex-best friend now... she didnt do much, she just teased him for a while and left crying ashamed an feeling remorse, afterawhile she tried to hide it, but my friend told me about the "incident" and I immediatly broke out with her...and told her to not call me or come near my home, she ignored and came anyway, I decided to let her in, and was crying and shivering, she begged me to not leave her, and I ended accepting her back. 6 - 3 Tragedy, she found out about a mellow goodbye internet message I left my ex and later she found out that a friend of mine had called her names and I didnt tell her about it, even though I stopped talking to that person after thatm she broke up with, and I begged her back... and she took me back... 7 - CHAOS: our realtionship is crazy we are both slightly self-centered people and we argue a lot, Im very jealous to the point being possessive, which she strongly dislikes. She is very, VERY pretty, I mean, lucky me I am one ugly fellow, and she is slim, fair skinned, straight dirty blonde hair and green eyes, and Im not bragging or anything but when we go out in the streets, when we are just walking along the sidewalk, guys on the street always stare or even say things like "wow" or "oh my god!" My constant jelousy tantrums eventually really pissed her off, she ended p telling me she needed he space and I should trust he...other than jeolosy and the age difference meaening she is up to tiresome night outs more often than I am, which led to several fights between us we are very good in other aspects, we have the best physica chemestry ever, the sex is beyound belief good or both and we are extremely afetuous to each other all the time. 8 - LAst happening, actually this happened yesterday. My jealousy wasnt under control completely yet and we did argue a lot about that in the past couple weeks and she felt totally overwhelmed and met a friend of her, a guy, while I was away working, and they had some beers and talked a lot and she admitted she DID feel attract to him was getting confused, but later on we met and we talked, she cried LOT and so did I, she first said we should break up or have a break, but when I ok "ok then so lets go to my place and I will help you gather all your stuff in a box and carry it home to you" and she cried even more and said "no I dont wannt that, I love you I wanna be with you but sometimes I feel we are too different in important aspects..." but she ended up come back to my place with me, we slept together cuddling all night right after she told about her friends who are trying to convince her to break up with me because she is too young and I´m too possessive, but she claims she still wants to be give us a second chance, and she said that even so she need a week or 2 alone to think thing over in her life, and even though she says she has no intention to hook up with someone else whatsoever, she wants to feel free to do whatever she wants during that period... I LOVE HER MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD. what should I think or do about this second chance????? thank you!
BCCA Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 My friend, there are more red flags here than I can count. Let me point out the deal breaker: she was teasing (at least thats what she told you) your BEST FRIEND. She could very well have made out with him, and really god only knows what else. That is beyond scandalous. I honestly think she is too young. She's going to do this crazy stuff for at least another 4-5 years, and I just don't think you're gonna wanna stick around for it. There are a million pretty girls in the world, and a lot of them arent the right ones for you, unfortunately. Me, personally, I would call this a dead deal. It's just too chaotic, and you guys just seem to be on very different pages. I imagine shes starting college soon...its going to be a living nightmare then, and shes already semi-cheated...can you really trust her, when youre already jelous and insecure?
nopainnogain Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Well, Im 26 and my girlfriend is 17... ! I just read this and stopped here. Here is your main problem. This equation hardly ever works long term man. Let her go . Letting her go now will give you a better chance to reunite in the future but dont wait for her. The more u persue her the more resentment you both will feel. So let her be bro. Its better for the long run.
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