SunnyLady Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Hi, I used to be a frequent poster here on LS, when I was going through a break up but left for a while to cool things off. Ok so I am going to be as brief as possible, I got involved with this guy (he was in America and I was in England) and he seemed very sweet and nice. Charming and gentlemanly etc. He also seeemed willing to strike up a long distance relationship. So he came down to London and we spent a bit of time togther. He was in his final year of college then. I then travelled to the states and this is the intresting part --- he never saw me. When I got to the states he told me that he could not see me and he wanted to be platonic friends becausehad someone else he cared about etc. You can imagine how humiliating it was for me. Anyway I moved on (that was about 2 years ago). We hardly kept in touch but I could tell from his facebook that he was having fun with his girlfriend etc. Fast forward to a few days ago, he contacted me saying he thought about me etc and thought he should say hello. So I responded and asked him why he was being so nice etc. He then said that he was going through a lot then and maybe he needed a break then. He kept apologising and saying he could never live with his being hostile to me. And that I will never know how much I mean to him and that he is definitely going to come to England to see me. He works now and from his messages I can tell that he is trying to demonstrate that he is more mature etc. My question is this - what does he want?? I don't trust him anymore after what he did to me but my friend says he may be more mature now and perhaps realised what he has lost etc. I am not so sure though. We are not in the same country so I can't say he just wants a bit of physical intimacy with me etc. Any ideas?? I'm wondering what could have triggered this? Your input is much valued and appreciated. Thanks so much.
BCCA Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Not that I advocate checking, but since you already have, does his facebook profile now say 'single'? It honestly sounds to me like he is recently single and could be feeling lonely. Perhaps he matured, but don't forget how cold he was when you came to the states and he told you he was seeing someone else and couldnt see you. You'll never know for sure what he wants, all you can do is assume. To me, it sounds like he's reaching out because he's lonely, but it could be any number of things. If I was you, I would just take a step back from the whole thing and see what happens. Actions speak louder than words.
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