JoeNewbie Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 This woman I know is a beautician. Her clients are mostly female friends and acquaintances. I've known her for many years and always thought she was attractive. She must be in her mid forties now. I saw her this weekend and spent a few minutes alone with her for the first time ever. She offered me a facial massage so I can relax. I felt a bit uncomfortable. I'm sure I would've loved it but in this situation I thought her offer was inappropriate. Am I being too much of a prude by thinking that a facial massage is a sensual act?
Ocean-Blue Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 I think so, yes. It is just a facial massage. Not like she was asking to massage your precious parts.
Author JoeNewbie Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 I think you are right. I realize touching isn't that big of a deal for some people. I've never had a facial massage although I get regular head massages, which I find very pleasant and almost arousing. I think a facial massage would certainly get junior's attention and that's why it made me uncomfortable. It would've been too much sexual tension for me to handle.
Ocean-Blue Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 I think you are right. I realize touching isn't that big of a deal for some people. I've never had a facial massage although I get regular head massages, which I find very pleasant and almost arousing. I think a facial massage would certainly get junior's attention and that's why it made me uncomfortable. It would've been too much sexual tension for me to handle. That's cute. I guess for you, touching the face and head is intimate, huh? That's totally understandable. I'm like that, when someone touches my neck.
Author JoeNewbie Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 I find anything that involves physical pleasure to be on the intimate side of things. The woman who does my head massages also rubs my neck. I love it. I almost get a hard on every time.
Ocean-Blue Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 I find anything that involves physical pleasure to be on the intimate side of things. The woman who does my head massages also rubs my neck. I love it. I almost get a hard on every time. Well touch is a very sensual thing, or can be. She's probably used to it. It's not like you're going to poke her with your erection. I say, let her give you the massage and just RELAX and enjoy.
Trimmer Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Unless either of you are married, I would go and enjoy it. Man, it sounds great just thinking about it. I love getting my hair cut for that reason, too...
Ruby Slippers Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Am I being too much of a prude by thinking that a facial massage is a sensual act? No way! I get turned on every time I get a massage, and I have only gotten them from women (by choice), and I'm straight! Since I've always been in a relationship when I've gotten one, I didn't feel right getting a naked massage from a man, because I knew I probably wouldn't be able to help getting turned on. But yeah, if a guy I think is cute just rubs my back through clothes, it turns me on.
Geishawhelk Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 I completely understand where you guys are coming from - but this is the kind of thing that makes a serious masseur/masseuse's job so difficult. I studied Shiatsu, which is a Japanese acupressure therapy (like acupuncture but with hands) and it's effective and very therapeutic. But if I had a pound for every person who rqang me up and asked what extras I did....! I think one of the major problems is that in our society, we cuddle and hug our young children, and show affection through touch - but thenm at a certain age, showing affection physically, becomes taboo... It's not the done thing, and is associated with something more sinister. So first of all, we forget how nice it is to merely show feelings and affection through touch, and secondly, we associate any form of touch with being turned on. I can't tell you the times it's caused real problems during a treatment. I've even had my leg stroked by a client who actually assumed I was deliberately trying to "come on strong".... I backed off immediately and told him the treatment was terminated. It's not easy being a legitimate therapist.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Geisha, I can understand your situation. I have NEVER come on to a massage therapist in any way! I just can't help that it does turn me on somewhat. It's just soooooo relaxing and feels soooooo nice. I mean, it's really pretty intimate. They're getting in there and working your muscles down to the core! Man, I need a massage. Maybe now that I've determined to be single for a while, I'll finally hire a masseur.
Trimmer Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 I am loathe to think that my comment about "unless either of you are married" implied that I thought there would be anything over the professional boundary in the works. Now that I read it back, I'm not even quite sure what I meant by that, except that if the OP is hungry for intimate touch, his first source should be an existing relationship, if he has one. Having said that, I agree with Ruby - the touch of massage is out of this world, and yet I too have never even considered crossing a professional boundary. I don't really think of a massage as "intimate," as I tend to reserve that word for something shared, and that's clearly not the deal with a massage. I just think of it as a well-deserved pampering, and as I pay a quite reasonable fee for it, I gladly soak it up and let it be all about ME, without any guilt or need for reciprocating... All this talk... Now I want to go get one, right now.
Ruby Slippers Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 ^ Yeesss. I want one, too! Of course, there are dozens of men on Craigslist who want to give them for free. haha I know what you mean about having your hair cut, too. I looooove cutting a man's hair. I have done it for a few different boyfriends, and I find it so intimate and sexy. I go all out, though -- I put on sexy "salon" music, wash his hair for him, shave his face, sideburns, and back of his neck, and rinse it all off in the shower afterward.
itgirlragdoll Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I am a cosmetologist and we do facial massages at my salon as well. And if one of my clients mistook it for an act of intimacy, well, I'd be a little grossed out. ;]
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