sweetbutcheeky Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 I was checking a message on a dating site and I saw a guy on there I used to date, just seeing him on there made me mad (not being on the site, but just him). At first clicked on the pic cause when tiny thought he was cute, then realized who it was. Took a breath and looked at my message. (this wasn't where we met) Well part of what made me mad was that he said this "I am a Gentleman in every sence of the word granted usualy I would not have to say so but this being a profile you do not have this info yet. OK so I am on here to meet some one worth talking to." Which is far from the truth! Maybe on the first date, but then he forgot how to be one! Then I get a message from this guy. Ugh He was the one who ended it by saying he would call me when he got home, never called again. Before that he started to be really late, not calling when he said he would and so on an I called him on it and he appologised and gave some excuse (he was like that to everyone) and would do better. I told him I wasn't going to call him because wasn't going to be the only one. So called on the way home and would call when he got home. Never did and I never called him. Now he sends me a message Hey! Long time no see! Looky looky who how are you and how is everthing I hope things are good! Why do you care? Seriously! Similar has happened in the past. I dated a guy, just 2 dates and he said he didn't see a connection so we move on. Then months later he said he doens't know why he let me go, has been thinking about he and so on ... Bla bla bla Guys if you like the girl act like it at the time, don't go crawling back like everything is cool! Or nothing ever happened. The guys who act like asses then come back acting all cool like we are old friends who lost touch p*ss me off!
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 Though woman never forget
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 I seriously wouldn't care About what exactly?
Green Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 about any of it, You have great boobs I'd contact you again no matter what
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 Now he says "I have seen you down town a couple of times but I was avoiding getting slapped lol" Pretty good guess!
Green Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Now he says "I have seen you down town a couple of times but I was avoiding getting slapped lol" Pretty good guess! hahah see thats kind of funny to hear
Trialbyfire Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 sbc, do these guys matter to you at all? If not, why bother allowing it to affect you? If so, why do they matter?
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 about any of it, You have great boobs I'd contact you again no matter what But if you weren't as ass before you could have had the great boobs and more if you hadn't messed it up. Why would we forget that or let you get near the boobs this time?
Green Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 But if you weren't as ass before you could have had the great boobs and more if you hadn't messed it up. Why would we forget that or let you get near the boobs this time? I usualy screw up and then later want back in... thats probably what happened. My foresight hasn't always been 20/20 you know. I was once a mortal man
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 sbc, do these guys matter to you at all? If not, why bother allowing it to affect you? If so, why do they matter? This has happened 3 times, once I didn't care about him so I don't care. But the other 2 including the guy mentioned I did care for and thought they did me. So for them to contact me again like we are old friends that just lost touch when they ended things badly and hurt me (more so the hurt with a guy I haven't mentioned) really makes me mad. Like do they really need a wake up call about how they ended things?
Trialbyfire Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 This has happened 3 times, once I didn't care about him so I don't care. But the other 2 including the guy mentioned I did care for and thought they did me. So for them to contact me again like we are old friends that just lost touch when they ended things badly and hurt me (more so the hurt with a guy I haven't mentioned) really makes me mad. Like do they really need a wake up call about how they ended things? You know it's your ego talking right now, don't you?
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 I usualy screw up and then later want back in... thats probably what happened. My foresight hasn't always been 20/20 you know. I was once a mortal man LOL Then cause your no longer mortal your going to be chasing boobs that you have no chance of getting back for eternity! LOL
Green Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 LOL Then cause your no longer mortal your going to be chasing boobs that you have no chance of getting back for eternity! LOL yeah thats pretty much true. But theres new boobs like yours, who don't hate me yet
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 I Ugh He was the one who ended it by saying he would call me when he got home, never called again. Before that he started to be really late, not calling when he said he would and so on an I called him on it and he appologised and gave some excuse (he was like that to everyone) and would do better. I told him I wasn't going to call him because wasn't going to be the only one. So called on the way home and would call when he got home. Never did and I never called him. Similar has happened in the past. I dated a guy, just 2 dates and he said he didn't see a connection so we move on. Then months later he said he doens't know why he let me go, has been thinking about he and so on ... Bla bla bla I have two responses. Sorry, I don't know how to separate the quotes. 1. As for the first paragraph....this is called the fadeout. We've all done it, we've all had it done to us. It always means the same thing. They are apologizing because they feel like a jerk, but that doesn't mean they will change, because they've already mentally moved on. Classic signs! Your response? Fade back. Otherwise, you are just forcing a confrontation, and what are they going to say? They didn't feel a connection, blah blah? Obviously if you have a relationship with this person, beyond the first stages of dating, then you deserve more of an explanation. 2. If you run into the guy months later and he starts apologizing, saying he should never have let you go...don't believe it. Just don't. If they really wanted to get back together with you they would have seeked you out earlier. Don't waste emotional energy on these situations, they just aren't worth it. The person didn't do anything bad to you, they just lost interest, and most likely you've done the same thing to someone else. Doesn't mean there is anything wrong with any of the parties involved. And yeah, that guy should have called you when he said he would, that's lame. Next!
peace_pipe Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 He cares because he isn't getting laid at the moment. Girls do the same $%^&.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 You know it's your ego talking right now, don't you? I don't think so because I don't feel like "how dare they come back after so long! They will have to beg at my feet!" It's more that in general in these examples I don't understand how the guy can start chatting like we are old buddies? I mean they can't expect that we both forgot? I don't get it I have two responses. Sorry, I don't know how to separate the quotes. 1. As for the first paragraph....this is called the fadeout. We've all done it, we've all had it done to us. It always means the same thing. They are apologizing because they feel like a jerk, but that doesn't mean they will change, because they've already mentally moved on. Classic signs! Your response? Fade back. Otherwise, you are just forcing a confrontation, and what are they going to say? They didn't feel a connection, blah blah? Obviously if you have a relationship with this person, beyond the first stages of dating, then you deserve more of an explanation. I had a feeling about what was happening which is my I put it in his court and told him he would have to call and make the effort because I wouldn't be (had given up on him at that point anyway). Though he never apologized. 2. If you run into the guy months later and he starts apologizing, saying he should never have let you go...don't believe it. Just don't. If they really wanted to get back together with you they would have seeked you out earlier. Don't waste emotional energy on these situations, they just aren't worth it. The person didn't do anything bad to you, they just lost interest, and most likely you've done the same thing to someone else. Doesn't mean there is anything wrong with any of the parties involved. And yeah, that guy should have called you when he said he would, that's lame. Next! In his case he did lie and so on, and should have told me he wasn't interested when I asked him if he wanted to be bf/gf/relationship and not tell me we should date each other more. No I don't believe it, though he didn't apologize. Though the main point is that it's just a head scratcher of why they contact you again after so long like we are cool and they did nothing. Cause he obviously knows he did something or else souldn't hide from me, be afraid of getting slapped! lol
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 yeah thats pretty much true. But theres new boobs like yours, who don't hate me yet Hmm well I don't think the boobs can hate! lol Good luck with them though! Puts on the push up bra, even though may be overkill! lol
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