EmperorR Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Although I was crying throughout it, I ripped up all the pictures and cards and threw them away, at least I won't ever get tempted to read lies and look at me hugging the devil sorry just needed to tell someone:laugh:
MichiganMan222 Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 HAHAHA Hey Emperor! You wouldn't believe this but while making dinner for my kids, I went into the cupboard to get plates. Well this is where I kept all my cards. I didn't find any from the ex in there, but it made me remember a giant one she got me on V-Day that I had stuck behind the couch. This thing is like 2'x3' big....I marched it out to the big trash bin outside and its sitting out right now waiting for next Wed morning. CONGRATS TO YOU!!!!!!!!! Don't stop there....look for EVERYTHING!!!!! Pics, notes, etc...
ioncebelieved Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Huge step!!! I have a large box in the corner of my walk in closet with everything ex. I am not sure I will ever destroy that, but keep it as a reminder one day when I find the right one I was not crazy for holding on to the box.
ahhhchooo Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Ouch.. I could never do that. But then again, I'm the type of person who likes to read and look through old history with people long forgotten, just for kicks of nostalgia. The pictures might go if I eventually find someone to love again. I destroyed photos of my old ex without a thought with this girl.
ioncebelieved Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Ouch.. I could never do that. But then again, I'm the type of person who likes to read and look through old history with people long forgotten, just for kicks of nostalgia. The pictures might go if I eventually find someone to love again. I destroyed photos of my old ex without a thought with this girl. I am with ya on that! If my ex discarded all of the things given to her by me, it would kill me if I found out.
SoundTribe Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 the day my ex and i broke up i threw away every memory we had. cards, emails, pictures, you name it, i threw it away.
Melrapuo Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 The day my ex made it officially over, I went all around the house and threw out most of her stuff. One of these things was this Valentine's Day card she made me out of construction paper. Goofy, I know. But it was really sweet. Pretty much praised me as the best boyfriend ever. That was hard to throw out after two years, but I tore that mother****er up and threw it away as fast as I could. Its amazing how quickly our ex's forget stuff like that. Meh, **** 'em. The few things I do have left are a sweatshirt, leather jacket, Fossil set she gave me last Christmas, and an ice cream maker she got me for our anniversary. I'm gonna sell the ice cream maker, but don't know what to do with the rest. I mean, the jacket is nice. lol I remember I kept some stupid thing that a girl gave me from a long time ago. It wasn't until I dated my recent ex that I threw that thing out. This time I'm making sure I don't keep holding on to old memories like that. It prevents me from moving forward.
Peter_pan Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 yeh i see the whole point to doing it to move on etc, but i couldnt throw away all the stuff she got me. ive still got t shirts and jumpers in my cupboard that she bought me. i have a suitcase of cards and pictures and letters in my shed. i dont intend on destroying it all, because i believe she loved me at that moment in time, and it was a good time of my life, so why would i want to erase that
MichiganMan222 Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 My ex got me a lot of clothes. I kept all that but only because I like them. They don't really bother me as far as making me miss her. If that starts, I will probably give them away.
Sysyphus28 Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 I am going to have a mock funeral tonight after work and burn all the bulls*** lies........why keep them. I was going to send them to her so she could smell her own bul****................ Should I? Or should I just burn it all...................with picture of her on top as a cherry?
lofi_tokyo Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Personally, I feel no need to burn/rip up/destroy any photographs of my ex. All our pictures, everything he gave me, all momentos that are related to him, are safely stored in my basement. Out of sight, out of mind. Right now I am angry. Very angry. I don't want to see his face ever again, nor do I want to hear his voice, or hear anything about him. However, anger is part of the healing process. Someday, when I've moved on fully, and happy in my life and am okay with my past, I like to think I'll stumble over those old cards/pictures/presents and smile, remembering a small part of my life, and a part of me growing up.
alwayssme Posted October 31, 2008 Posted October 31, 2008 Personally, I feel no need to burn/rip up/destroy any photographs of my ex. All our pictures, everything he gave me, all momentos that are related to him, are safely stored in my basement. Out of sight, out of mind. Right now I am angry. Very angry. I don't want to see his face ever again, nor do I want to hear his voice, or hear anything about him. However, anger is part of the healing process. Someday, when I've moved on fully, and happy in my life and am okay with my past, I like to think I'll stumble over those old cards/pictures/presents and smile, remembering a small part of my life, and a part of me growing up. i feel the same way! I asked my ex the other day if he still had everything I gave him and he said "yeah". But who knows? I wonder if he really does have it. Since he broke up with me why would he throw them away? Lol that would suck and be messed up but I would expect anything at this point hahaha so sad, he was my rock back in the day, now he's a memory! His choice though:o
Author EmperorR Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 Personally, I feel no need to burn/rip up/destroy any photographs of my ex. All our pictures, everything he gave me, all momentos that are related to him, are safely stored in my basement. Out of sight, out of mind. Right now I am angry. Very angry. I don't want to see his face ever again, nor do I want to hear his voice, or hear anything about him. However, anger is part of the healing process. Someday, when I've moved on fully, and happy in my life and am okay with my past, I like to think I'll stumble over those old cards/pictures/presents and smile, remembering a small part of my life, and a part of me growing up. I had to do it, the real reason I was keeping them was the part inside of me what if she comes back one day, but me like destroying the pictures the cards throwing out the gifts it just put like the nail in the coffin for me that's over
lofi_tokyo Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 I had to do it, the real reason I was keeping them was the part inside of me what if she comes back one day, but me like destroying the pictures the cards throwing out the gifts it just put like the nail in the coffin for me that's over Ahh, well that makes sense then. I cant imagine myself digging up that stuff anytime soon, it would hurt to badly. Why do I hold onto it? I hope someday I can smile at old memories. My final nail in the coffin I guess is... When I came to the realization that regardless of if he comes back or not, I can't imagine dating him again. And for now, and probably a very long time, I will not be ready to talk to him as friends... though he is certainly trying to make conversation.
ioncebelieved Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Personally, I feel no need to burn/rip up/destroy any photographs of my ex. All our pictures, everything he gave me, all momentos that are related to him, are safely stored in my basement. Out of sight, out of mind. Right now I am angry. Very angry. I don't want to see his face ever again, nor do I want to hear his voice, or hear anything about him. However, anger is part of the healing process. Someday, when I've moved on fully, and happy in my life and am okay with my past, I like to think I'll stumble over those old cards/pictures/presents and smile, remembering a small part of my life, and a part of me growing up. That was my mentality behind not throwing stuff out. It is put up and not in sight. Of course I could go and pull it all out....but why do something so foolish??? I am 100 percent with you on seeing it in the future and knowing I have grown. Perfect!!!
lofi_tokyo Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Ewww... maybe I didn't do such a good job of stashing pictures as a thought. I have digital pictures of my ex neatly tucked away somewhere on this laptop, to be honest I don't actually even know where, and I'm not gonna look for them. BUT I AM loading up pictures from last nights Halloween party onto facebook right now... and I clicked on a folder.. I'm guessing my recieved files? By accident? It it was the very first picture I ever saw of my ex. Taken probably a year before he met me. It wasn't intentional, I closed it right away... but I think its the first time I've looked at his face since... a month and a half ago? More maybe even? Holy crap. That hurt so badly and I just want to call him right now. Wow. So much pain. I thought I was further along but wowowowow so much hurt in one stupid thumbnail of a picture. Good god.
sultry33 Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 Its strange but I have a pic of my ex with his new chick.. I titled it ass hole:p whenever i feel sad about him i look at that and laugh:laugh: as for cards love notes yeah i still have them but i dont dare look funny how the words hurt so much one day i may throw them out but they are stasshed away for now
Sysyphus28 Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 I burned them all. Each time I threw something into the fire.......I said out loud.....I am letting go of...............pain I am letting go of .............longing I am letting go of.............YOU
Author EmperorR Posted November 4, 2008 Author Posted November 4, 2008 I burned them all. Each time I threw something into the fire.......I said out loud.....I am letting go of...............pain I am letting go of .............longing I am letting go of.............YOU which is why I ripped up all the pictures and cards, the only reason I was keeping them I was thinking oh when she comes back I'll show her the cards and how i cherished them etc., but nope stage one in moving on.
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