brokenthinker Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 So my story recapped. My ex wife cheated on my back in august 07, I moved back to california. And there is this girl I've known since she was 9. I was 24, she was 17. I was a very close family friend, we started talking a lot, (mom pushed us together in a way) before you know it we are dating. Things were great we were inseperable, and yeah I did fall in love after 9 months. Then we split she just never called me again, found out she started dating this guy she knew for a very long time and liked way before I came into the scene. Her mom was pissed at her for waht she did to me but its cool. We didnt talk for months, their relationship last 2 weeks because he just wanted to have sex with her and when he did he dumped her the next day. From that point she tried killing herself and was admitted to a psych ward for a week on suicide watch. I tried contacting her to see if she was okay, she spouted off never talk to her again bla bla bla. Alright, I cut ties. Well flash forward here we are I came around after 3 months to visit with her older brother who is my close friend and she starts talking to me. She appologized explained herself, felt really bad and started being warm and affectionate. I play it off like its nothing despite the fact I care about her very much. But her life has gone down the tubes. Since she got used she's developed a cocaine habit, smokes tons of weed, and just has a host of problems. She's already tried hitting me up for cocaine a couple times. It's just so depressing, I talked to her online an hour ago, and despite the fact I still have feelings for her, I feel a great sadness. It's almost like the girl I knew, the good girl who was fun to be around and everything is gone. And replaced by this girl who gives head for cocaine and is fiending for it. I don't have the heart to tell her mother she needs serious help. Her mother already found out about the weed, and has an idea she is doing coke, but her mother doesnt do anything about it. The house is in chaos her mothers going through a divorce now, her husband cheated on her, her brother is going through the court system and its just a HUGE mess. I don't even know what to do.... I wanted this girl to come back into my life, but now that I have that chance... I dont think I want it anymore. ANyways I just needed to vent my mind.
BikerBeagle Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Truthfully, all the drama and stuff going on in HER life isn't your problem. Detach yourself from the situation. I understand the 'rescuer' mentality (because I am one), but my best advice is to not get involved in this whole sordid mess. All of the people you mentioned are -supposed to be- adults and should be able to make decisions for themselves.
ioncebelieved Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 I agree with Beagle. Talk about a House of Issues. Sounds like you need to stay clear of her or you could take on more problems you do not need.
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