thelittlemouse Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 [sIZE=4]Here we go.. I have been with my boyfriend for over 5 years and this past year we have had some really bad fallings out, almost to the point where we've nearly split up. I got offered a dream job, but at the other side of the country. I guess by way of trying to make a fresh start and get past all the falling out we decided to move together and go for it. We had previously been living together - initially on our own and then with his parents. We had largely put a lot of the stress and strains down to lack of privacy etc being at his mum n dads, but now we have moved I don't know if things are actually all that different. My partner is all the good things you could wish for in someone, he is a remarkable man, and I love him dearly but as much as it breaks me to say this I increasingly feel like maybe were not meant to be. We moved 3 months ago and it feels like we're both tip toeing round each other, I know I am certainly doing this and I'm sure hes not trying to rock the boat either. There is a strange uneasy truce going on where I feel like were going through the motions but not actually living it. We are the clichéd “opposites attract” - we couldn't get much more different from one another if we tried and I am finding it increasingly hard to see what we have in common with one another. Whilst our differences were exciting at first, I feels like its now beginning to wear thin for both of us. I also increasingly feel like he doesn't understand me, particularly on an intellectual level. My world is grey and his is black and white. It's got to the point where I just don't talk to him about anything on this level as I know he'll either glaze over or just take the mick out of what I'm saying. Sometimes I burst to tell him stuff but I just feel like I cant be myself. Our sex life has also taken a hit. My libido is virtually zilch and has been for the past few years. I feel like Ive gone from willing-to-try-anything-4 times a week to once-a-week-with-the-lights-off. I just don't feel anything and I'm not sure if its me or its me and him thats the problem. Where the hell do I go from here? I firmly believe that relationships require work and God knows we have both worked at it but should it be this hard? Any advice is much appreciated. xxx[/sIZE]
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