Dawg88 Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 After one whole year of me constantly thinking about her, and questioning myself, and reading every post on this form, and buying every book imaginable about how to win back your ex, and hoping and praying that we would get back together, she finally walked back into my life. Here's what I found out...all of the great people on this board who have experience in these situations were right on. Sure, at first, I thought my prayers had been answered, and it was nice having her back in my life. But, after about a month, all of the things she said and did to me the first time around that caused us so much tension began to resurface, just like everyone on this forum said would happen. She didn't change, nor did the quality of our relationship. Our relationship quickly plummeted to where it was headed before she left me. This time, though, things were different for me. I no longer wanted to be with her, so I ended things this time. Along the way, I realized that she never was the right one for me. All of my family and friends told me that, but I didn't believe this. But, now I see the light. Yes, breakups do happen for a reason. I know how difficult it is to get dumped. It hurts. It hurts a lot. It smacks you in the face, and pierces through your heart. But, folks, please heed the advice of all the wonderful people on this board, and look for greener pastures elsewhere. Remember, we all have two choices. We can either get busy living, or we can get busy dying. And, believe me, it's not worth dying over someone who has little or no regard for you. Peace.
jasperlynx Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 sounds like me. Wife hates me right now, and we are spinning our wheels at the moment. 2 small kids and a house, with me sleeping in the attic.lol... Wife said she was done and for some reason I beleive if I can be good everyday without hounding her or calling with manipulative gestures like...ive changed...or give me another chance...bla bla bla...she will come to her senses and be my wife again. Maybe im a fool. or fooling myself. We have to stay in the same house for money reasons, and Im in denial thinking everything will be ok Sorry it did not work out man.
BCCA Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 It really sucks that you had to go through this, but if there is one thing I've learned from going through a second round with a relationship its that at least now you know for sure. Maybe it took another try before you really saw things for what they were, and now you'll never be stuck wondering 'what if'. I think the thing I value most about going through a second try with my ex is really coming to grips with the fact that people don't change. Sometimes, they can act a little different to make you feel like they might have, but at the end of the day, they'll always be the same person. Youre better off trying with someone else.
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