all4love Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 I had gone through a bad break-up more than an year ago and since then a lot of things have changed and Iam happy to have realised that life is easy when you're single though single people do have bad days.I thought I had moved on & was very happy with my professional life,had made so many friends and I had started to get more attention and could make people laugh,smile... So everything seemed to be going gret but then after like 6-8months of being 'happily' single Iam again stuck to the past and cant sleep without missing him,thinking of him and more since the day I got to know from someone that he's not v happy with his job and the new city where he lives.It hurts me cos I know when he feels lonely (which happens once in a while) he goes in depression and I was the one person on whom he was so emotionally dependent (he'd tell me that there's nobody with whom he can feel so comfortable and can share any damn thing...) I know that he might not be missing my presence in his life as he's got a gf (LDR) but I dunno why I just cant stop thinking that he needs ME the most at this point of time.I know Iam wrong and its like I dont usuallytrust what my heart says but since the last 2-3 weeks Iam pretty bothered...It reminds me of those times when he used to feel lonely here in my city,when his VISA had got cancelled plus he had got a supplementary in an exam....whenever he felt insecure about something. Since the day he told me he made a gf, is like hard to figure out as to how he can connect so deeply with someone else.I was jealous for sure but subconsciously my mind always says that he cannot love someone else like the way he loved me.I dont know if its cos of those b'ful days and the way he was addicted to me or what....(even while breaking-up with me,he'd cry often on the phone and secretly wish if things didnt go this way,if it wasnt an LDR..n 4 100 othr stupid reasons) The last time we had talked was on new year and then we had a quite formal talk about 5mnths ago when he had called. Every night I feel like talking to him just to know if he's alright and if he's content with life now....I wish i could be there for him....I wish I could only get some 30 secondsto actually have a heart to heart talk like he always did. I wanna be there for him when he;s low in life,I dont expect anything but I just cant stop loving him.
You'reasian Posted November 1, 2008 Posted November 1, 2008 Wow. Sounds powerful! Well, you guys broke up and presmably went NC - something that most of the members here recommend as a way to get over your lingering relationship, but it seems like its lingering and lingering. If he has a new girlfriend, you have to respect that. That's his new relationship and its possible that his girlfriend might not be comfortable with you coming back into his life? Let his new relationship develop and try to be his friend later on.
georgejungle Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 This all sounds like YOU need him. YOU miss him, You want him back. There are a lot of different emotions and words in this post of yours. You say you really want to be there for him and support him and just know that he's O.K. and doing good with his life... But...Deep down I think you still want to be with him. Hence the comment "I just cant stop loving him". If he has someone new, you need to let him have his space. You don't need to try and be his friend, even if you think he really needs it. You need to move on and not worry about "What if i had done this...or that...Should I stay available for him?"... He's obviously moved on, so you need to as well. You don't need to be his savior, i'm sure he knows how you feel about him. move on, have fun.
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