Author ilmw Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 Yea! Rub it in there you! You never told me you were a member of the 1st Royal Golden Parachute Regiment! Just kidding! Glad to hear you're doing so well, and you, DS, and the new "friend" My first Christmas without the X, and children was spent with an Elvis decanter of Jim Beam, George Jones, and a Fred Flintstone jellyglass. Man did the three of us ever have ourselves a disccusion about women! Elivis said he liked them "fast" while "Fred" said he liked them old fashioned, and "Jim?" Jim said he liked the old and mellowed! LOL! Merry Christmas my friend from the Great White North! Great to hear from you Gunns! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you too
Author ilmw Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 ilmw, How was/is your son affected by your divorce? Was the divorce messy or relatively easy? I am so worried about my children. Thanks! Hi Pink-O...( now that does not sound very nice does it)?? Anyhoo...as for my son. He did not take it very good at first.... but in time he seemed to get better. There was some anger issues at first... but they also seem to have lessoned (not extreme stuff... but noticeable to me) Luckily my separation and divorce was for the most part amicable... I could have been an a@@ ... and she definitely could have done worse to me. But we were both on board... that we did not want this to get ugly... because we both did not want this to be worse on the kids than it already was. There is no way around this.... if the kids love mom and dad... then this will effect them... it us up to mom and dad... to dampen or lessen the effect as much as possible.... by being grown ups... setting an example (although... in my opinion... getting divorced is a piss poor example to set?? Just do your absoulute best... to ease your kids through this... none of this... your father/mother is an a@@ho%e etc... That is just messed up. I heard stuff like this when I was a kid from my mom (funny thing is... she was telling the truth) It is up to your kids to make that decision.... they don't need mom/dad... tainting there image of the other parent (let them do that themselves) by there actions/ lack of action through out your childs life. I do know this... My son knows who his father is... and knows he is very muched loved... through my actions and words... He knows when he is getting into trouble by the old man... it's because the old man cares.. The end. Merry Christmas ilmw
AHIWON Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Oddly enough its almost been 2 years for me. I was over the horror I went thru a while ago but still working out how I felt about ME! An understanding if you will. Life is a learning process and I enjoy every moment of that discovery. The dark days well that was the worsed thing I've ever been thru but it was the wake up call I needed to be who I am now. I even felt the urge today to comeback and update my own thread which I did. Hope all is well with you Ilmw and Gunny. Merry Christmas to all!
PinkOrchid Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Thank you for your response, ilmw. I agree that divorce is a terrible example to set...I just don't know how much longer I can endure my marriage. Happy holidays!
Author ilmw Posted December 27, 2008 Author Posted December 27, 2008 Thank you for your response, ilmw. I agree that divorce is a terrible example to set...I just don't know how much longer I can endure my marriage. Happy holidays! Hi P-O Sometimes staying in a marriage that is poisonious is a worse example to set. We teach our children important life lessons through are own actions (right) If being in a marriage is causing more harm to you and your kids... then ending it would seem to be the right thing.... (seeing a husband/wife treat their spouse with disprespect/ abuse/ violence is wrong... and will be passed onto children... learned behaviour) I'm at work... so I better scoot.. shhhhhh!
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