pandagirl Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 If you include someone in a group email, does that count as breaking NC?
jerbear Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 What kind of group? Class of XY group, Marketing list, club list, or just a group of "friends"
Author pandagirl Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 haha. Well, he actually contacted ME after almost 2 months of NC through a group email he sent to like six of his very close friends and...me. It was telling us about an art exhibition he was recommending to us all. It was very specifically sent to certain people, so it wasn't a mistake on his part. I dunno, I was doing so well with just forgetting about him, then of course, he has to pull some passive-aggressive crap like this! The sad part it, it's mad me miss him. argh!
northstar1 Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 haha. Well, he actually contacted ME after almost 2 months of NC through a group email he sent to like six of his very close friends and...me. It was telling us about an art exhibition he was recommending to us all. It was very specifically sent to certain people, so it wasn't a mistake on his part. I dunno, I was doing so well with just forgetting about him, then of course, he has to pull some passive-aggressive crap like this! The sad part it, it's mad me miss him. argh! It's a weak attempt to get attention. It's impersonal and has little effort in it. Do you send one back? No. Why pain yourself to play games? If he wants to talk to you, he will man up and contact you directly.
Author pandagirl Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 It's a weak attempt to get attention. It's impersonal and has little effort in it. Do you send one back? No. Why pain yourself to play games? If he wants to talk to you, he will man up and contact you directly. I'm not writing back. We tried to be friends, but it didn't really work out (and I will take blame for most of that, I kept on trying to sleep with him). I know we would still both like to be friends, but some more time needs to pass before that happens... I guess hearing from him sort of made me realize he still thinks about me, which I assumed he didn't. But, yes: WEAK SAUCE!
selena_cat Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 dont worry panda girl i did it to, but i sent it to a mass e-mail he,and went on a website asking the same thing. Thing is that i sent it to an e-mail acct claims he doesnt check but its on his yahoo msgers log in dont sweat it,i know its hard but at least you tried,now try not to do it again
Sysyphus28 Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 I just want to scream about this NC thing. IT hurts if you don't contact them it hurts if you do. The end result is that we all got straight up DUMPED!........... Everyone has a different rate of recovery! MIne is apparently turtle slow............... and I broke Nc this week. It has made me feel better. Wierd, but now I know how it really is between us. OVER and thats ok. She knows I want to be freinds...............if she doesn't want to ever talk or be my freind..............it is what it is.
Graduate Posted October 30, 2008 Posted October 30, 2008 Yes, it is weird. My ex used to do that for YEARS! even though he was the one who dumped me and knew I wanted to get back together. I know there was some meaning to it because he never used to include me in his group mails when we were together, and only started doing that when I stopped replying to his regular messages months after the breakup. I never figured out what that was about, but looking back I think he wanted to keep some form of contact with me because he cared about me as a human being, but he just no longer wanted to date me. It's been over 4 years since our breakup and about 3.5 years since I last spoke to him, but yesterday I finally replied to one of his messages for the first time in years. (On top of these group emails he sent me 'hi, how are you doing' messages every couple of months). He seemed really glad and relieved to hear from me and find out that I was doing great and don't hate him or anything. I guess he needed some sort of closure or absolution. Point of my long post: The fact that he included you in this group email probably has some meaning, but unfortunately it might not mean he that he wants to get back together.
Author pandagirl Posted October 30, 2008 Author Posted October 30, 2008 Yes, it is weird. My ex used to do that for YEARS! even though he was the one who dumped me and knew I wanted to get back together. I know there was some meaning to it because he never used to include me in his group mails when we were together, and only started doing that when I stopped replying to his regular messages months after the breakup. I never figured out what that was about, but looking back I think he wanted to keep some form of contact with me because he cared about me as a human being, but he just no longer wanted to date me. It's been over 4 years since our breakup and about 3.5 years since I last spoke to him, but yesterday I finally replied to one of his messages for the first time in years. (On top of these group emails he sent me 'hi, how are you doing' messages every couple of months). He seemed really glad and relieved to hear from me and find out that I was doing great and don't hate him or anything. I guess he needed some sort of closure or absolution. Point of my long post: The fact that he included you in this group email probably has some meaning, but unfortunately it might not mean he that he wants to get back together. Yeah. I think, honestly, he likes and cares about me as a person. There are probably some residual feelings left, but neither one of us wants to date again. We just don't work. So, I guess...I'm not sure what to do. I don't feel like responding to a half-assed email attempt to me, nor do I feel like we are ready to be friends. Maybe one day down the line, I will break no contact, but not right now. It doesn't mean that I don't miss him though!
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