likestolaugh Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 I've gone on a 1st date... now we're getting together for brunch tomorrow... (and that's all tomorrow, as I have class right after)... so who pays? the guy again? I'm wondering since of course it's not like dinner...
Meet 4 Coffee Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 The guy will pay unless he has put you in the friendship zone.
Green Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 I'd really enjoy it if a girl offered to pay especialy if I paid the last time and she was the one who invited me to the brunch.
dannydrifter Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Him, him, him. Oh yeah? Why? It's bad that a girl should offer? Let me tell you something as a guy... even if I liked you and u didn't offer to pay half, it wouldn't make a good impression. So if you want to come across as high maintenance and inconsiderate, be my guest and totally ignore the bill when it's placed on the table.
Shygirl15 Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Oh yeah? Why? It's bad that a girl should offer? Let me tell you something as a guy... even if I liked you and u didn't offer to pay half, it wouldn't make a good impression. So if you want to come across as high maintenance and inconsiderate, be my guest and totally ignore the bill when it's placed on the table. Goes both ways. If it's just a second date and you expect me to pay , it wouldn't make a good impression either. I would think you're really low, to be honest.
allina Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Probably him since it's one of the first dates. But, I LOVE taking my man out to brunch If you like him you could make this in to a date where you take him out
Okeydokey Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 If you are between ages 0 and 35 and live in a blue state, I would say that you should pay the bill if you suggested the date. If he suggested the date, you should offer to pay part of it. I don't see how offering to pay your share could make a bad impression - if he is uncomfortable with it, he'll let you know and you can just let it go. But, not offering could make you look bad.
dannydrifter Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Goes both ways. If it's just a second date and you expect me to pay , it wouldn't make a good impression either. I would think you're really low, to be honest. I don't expect you to pay. I would pay the bill. But I expect you to have the courtesy to offer to pay your share. This is what makes a good impression. If you think I'm low because of that, then that's your loss.
Shygirl15 Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 I don't expect you to pay. I would pay the bill. But I expect you to have the courtesy to offer to pay your share. This is what makes a good impression. If you think I'm low because of that, then that's your loss. I would, but later on. Not during the first few initial dates for God's sake. That's cheap.
dannydrifter Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 I would, but later on. Not during the first few dates for God's sake. That's cheap. No, you're cheap my dear. Sorry.
Shygirl15 Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 No, you're cheap my dear. Sorry. No, I'm not. Just not used to date cheap guys like you who make a big deal out of paying for a second date(!).
dannydrifter Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 No, I'm not. Just not used to date cheap guys like you who make a big deal out of paying for a second date(!). I don't expect this all the time, but on the first few dates why not? A nice girl should always make a gesture/offer to contribute to the bill. It gives a good impression that she is courteous and polite. But it's obvious you weren't trained nor brought up with these "ideas". So carry on...
Touche Posted October 29, 2008 Posted October 29, 2008 Here's the way it was for me...did he ask you out for your brunch date? Even if he did, I'd offer to pay. But here's where I'll probably get bashed...if he accepted my offer to pay, he's out. Yep, sorry. The second date is too early for him to ask me out and expect me to pay. After about the 4th or 5th date though I have always INSISTED on paying and did and never held it against my date if they let me. Because after that, if I ever decided I wanted to date someone past the 4th or 5th date, I always insisted on taking turns paying. But that's me and my weird little idiosyncrasies.
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